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AIBU fiancé’s wedding car suggestions

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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 19:41

Myself and my fiancé recently got engaged, and have started making plans for our wedding. For our wedding car I suggested something classy such as a white Bentley (which he thinks is me being high maintenance). My fiancé suggested to hire a new Toyota Yaris, as it’s his fav car as he currently owns an older model. Am I being unreasonable in wanting to have luxuries for one special day of our lives??

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mathswall · 04/06/2021 20:02

We had retro cars- 2minis, fiat 500 both from the 70s and an allegro that I thought would die before it got there 😂 we needed 4 as they are so small!

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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 20:02

@TheCraicDealer

Lots of larger taxi firms have executive cars, which is what I went for, drivers wear suits and drive "premium" cars. I think it was an E class Mercedes I got on the day, but can't remember tbh. It was literally about a quarter of the price of traditional wedding cars like what you're talking about.

I certainly wouldn't hire a Yaris (and he has one? WTF!) but what I've outlined above might be a good compromise.

I’ve looked into an E class Mercedes and deffo considering that as an option
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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 20:04

@KarmaStar

Congratulations on your engagement. If the car means a lot to you,have it,but compromise on something else that he wants.
Aww thank you! That’s something we will deffo be doing
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BessMarvin · 04/06/2021 20:04

Possibly you're new to mumsnet? Any wedding related thread is just a competition as to how little money was spent on their wedding so you won't get the answers you're looking for here

Aquamarine1029 · 04/06/2021 20:05

What a massive waste of money, but to each their own.

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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 20:06

@Maray1967

Ok so this was 25+ years ago but I had a vintage Austin Landaulette, cream and black, very traditional, and I loved it. I got to drive in it to church and to the reception. The second car was something similar - we did the trad thing of each car doing two journeys to the church to drop off parents/bridesmaids from the two different houses and then groom & best man in second car and me and dad in the main one. We saved ££ elsewhere as we had a professional photographer in the family, dressmaker, person with large drinks discount so all wine, champagne paid for as wedding gift and the church was free as I went. The car is on our main wedding photo - there is no way I would have had a modern ordinary car, so if it matters to you, go for it. I just wanted to drive in a big vintage car on my special day and to be honest I don’t remember it costing a fortune.
Aw that’s so lovely! I feel exactly the same, it should all be the very best and most special on such an important day of our lives
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filletofishmeal · 04/06/2021 20:07

@BessMarvin

Possibly you're new to mumsnet? Any wedding related thread is just a competition as to how little money was spent on their wedding so you won't get the answers you're looking for here
She wanted to prove a point to me by asking mumsnet, even after we "compromised". I'm guessing this backfired on her. Karma haha
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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 20:08

@BessMarvin

Possibly you're new to mumsnet? Any wedding related thread is just a competition as to how little money was spent on their wedding so you won't get the answers you're looking for here
You’re completely right! I’m surprised not everyone has walked to their venues looking at these responses
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titchy · 04/06/2021 20:08

Oh bless - trolly mctrollface thinks the groom travels with the bride! Don't the youngsters know anything these days?

Snackz · 04/06/2021 20:17

@PrincessA1203 Congratulations on your engagement! Smile Does the Bentley have any specific meaning to you? Like your fiance wants the Yaris as its his favourite car? If not, could he have the Yaris and you compromise on something else? Smile

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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 20:18

[quote Snackz]@PrincessA1203 Congratulations on your engagement! Smile Does the Bentley have any specific meaning to you? Like your fiance wants the Yaris as its his favourite car? If not, could he have the Yaris and you compromise on something else? Smile[/quote]
Thank you! It’s something I’ve always wanted and dreamt about since I was a little girl. My uncle had one at his wedding when I was younger and that’s where I fell in love! I prefer them in white as well to match my colour scheme too

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Catswithflamingos · 04/06/2021 20:19

It’s his wedding too...

reluctantbrit · 04/06/2021 20:19

We had a Bentley (1950th) and I loved it, it's in some of the wedding photos and we had a bit of a drive between our hotel and the venue for the ceremony so got a bit. out of it.

I think a Yaris is just a "normal" car, nothing I. would hire for a wedding, I can take my own then.

Either I go out for a car or I leave it, that's my opinion.

Llamadramasheepface · 04/06/2021 20:20

My friends mum drove me to my wedding in her normal car. As a surprise she wore a suit and chauffeurs hat and decorated it with ribbons. It was a lovely surprise. DH drove himself and our son to the church and us all to our reception. I couldn't have got worked up over cars tbh.

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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 20:20

@reluctantbrit

We had a Bentley (1950th) and I loved it, it's in some of the wedding photos and we had a bit of a drive between our hotel and the venue for the ceremony so got a bit. out of it.

I think a Yaris is just a "normal" car, nothing I. would hire for a wedding, I can take my own then.

Either I go out for a car or I leave it, that's my opinion.

You’re deffo my kind of person!! That’s exactly how I feel, and you’re so lucky you got one for your big day! A Yaris is deffo a standard day to day car
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Snackz · 04/06/2021 20:21

@PrincessA1203 Could you compromise with him and maybe treat him to hiring a Yaris for his birthday or something? Smile Compromise is the best way going forward here. When I got married, DH wanted a big fancy cake but in the end, we bought cakes from the supermarket and had loads of compliments on what a good idea it was etc. Don't be afraid to do something different Smile

AnUnoriginalUsername · 04/06/2021 20:24

My MOH drive me and the bridesmaids to the church in my car then drove it to the reception while DH drove me and him in his car. We spent a lot of money on our wedding day but I couldn't justify the ridiculous cost of hiring fancy wedding cars.

Disfordarkchocolate · 04/06/2021 20:27

I turned up on a minibus with most of the guests. We left in our normal family car.

Thehop · 04/06/2021 20:28

A vintage car really mattered to me, not so much my husband. He didn’t love it but didn’t care so we had my choice. I loved it and love it on my pictures.

I’m
Not bothered about music so we had his choices for the main. Invited guests to send requests ahead of time as floor fillers.

Compromise is key.

My sister in law rode in her dads ice cream van it was brilliant.

BessMarvin · 04/06/2021 20:29

I hope you manage to work it out. It's a tricky balance. On the one hand it's one day and seems ridiculous to spend so much money on it. On the other hand it's the only day (hopefully) that you get to do this so of course you want it to be memorable.

merryhouse · 04/06/2021 20:33

Why would you hire a car if it's just going to be the same as one you already own?

When I got married my dad drove me to the church in his car (a white Peugeot 309) which we tied a blue ribbon to. I considered walking the half a mile involved - though I couldn't get anyone to agree to strew rose petals in front of me - but there was the question of weather (and it did rain on the day).

My sister, three years later, went in a classic car (can't quite remember but I think somebody knew somebody who offered to lend it). One of those ones with square window sides and a flat top. Looks very cool in the photos.

Can't say I'm particularly fond of the white Bentley shape, but that's personal taste.

What driving will be happening? Are you going to have to travel from the reception to where you sleep, and if so will either of you be sober?

Beseigedbykillersquirrels · 04/06/2021 20:39

Couldn't the pair of you just had this discussion in private instead of talking to each other on here?

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PrincessA1203 · 04/06/2021 20:42

@Beseigedbykillersquirrels

Couldn't the pair of you just had this discussion in private instead of talking to each other on here?
We did! We just couldn’t agree so decided to see what others opinions were
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Livpool · 04/06/2021 20:46

We got a Hackney cab and it was great

BlueButtercups · 04/06/2021 20:47

He can arrive in his choice..

you arrive in yours 🎉