To want everyone to shut up

[QuestionableMouse]

I'm probably BU but I'm seriously fed up of people talking AT me.

My mam is in a phase of moaning at me about my sister. Utterly fucking sick of it. It's every conversion and I'm done. If it's not that, it's moaning about Covid stuff.

My dad either waffles on about things he did years ago or moans about my mam.

My sister moans about work and her partner.

I broke up with my partner a few days ago and none of them are interested in my life. They all just want to fucking moan and I'm at the end of my tether with it all. Just trying to get through to tomorrow when I have a full day alone. I can't wait.

Sorry about the break up. I can only tolerate so much of people and then I need, genuinely need, to spend time on my own. You’re not unreasonable, you just need ‘me’ time. Hope you have a lovely day on your own, get takeaway, read, chill, have a brilliant time!

hope tomorrow helps you recharge your batteries, have a lovely relaxing day.

Honestly today has been the worst day. I absolutely need time to myself. Parents have been living with me while their boiler was replaced and I can't wait for them to go home. I feel like I'm suffocating sometimes with it all.

See less of them?

I have a parent who will talk at me. You can see them waiting for me to finish what I’m saying so they can continue with their train of thought. I compared it recently to them having a stock set of stories, and as soon as they hear a trigger word from you, they can launch into it.

I realise this is not advice, but solidarity - its draining. Can you get out for more walks/shopping/peace?

I feel your pain! It's nice to hear what people are thinking about but it gets really tedious if it's all one way and they don't show interest in you too.

It might be that they are interested really, but just don't have good conversational social skills? My close friend used to annoy me when she lived at mine cos she'd never ask about my day even though I asked about hers. But I decided just to start talking about it unprompted and actually she was interested, she just forgot her manners to ask. Also I'm a real talker and find it hard to shut up long enough for people to finish - but it's not at all that I'm not interested, I'm actually very very interested in people's lives and stories. I just struggle to push down my instinct to interject. So could be something like this with your family? But totally reasonable to be annoyed by it even so.

Agree with previous poster, see less of them

Since you are kindly putting them up tell them you need some time alone and ask for space. Preferably with them absent from the house for most of the weekend.

Yanbu. I get sick of the sound of other people being unhappy about stuff. Sometimes I think I'd be a very happy hermit!

Oh but don't forget OP, you've got to #bekind and #alwaysreadytolisten .

Lemonlemonlemon thats exactly like my mother in law. A stock set of stories is a brilliant way to describe it!!