A few days ago I said to dp could we go out for a drive just us as we haven't been out as a couple in about 4 years just us without dd, we've had a lot of problems and I really felt it would be nice to get dressed up go for a drive and be able to talk just us ( my mum offered to have dd for a few hours ) I asked him and his response was we could talk we don't need dd out the way! Can I just say she's defo not in the way I just felt it would be nice to go out like most couples do, we haven't in 4 years! We have had huge issues with his mum interfering and generally not very nice to me which has caused a lot of issues in the relationship anyway instead of going out for a drive we've had a huge argument because his mum is coming over tonight, he plays football 3 times a week and runs on a Sunday, he has just said to me that it's only fair he does his sport as it's for his health and fitness and doesn't see any wrong it it, but here's where maybe I'm asking too much - I've asked to be taken for a drive once in 4 years and he can't even do that! When am I supposed to do my fitness if I want to do a run etc I have to get up extra early to go and even then I have a time limit, I feel so worthless it's not that I want dd out the way I just wanted to go for an evening drive just being us instead I've got to suffer a migraine and chest pains because his mother says really awful things and he pretends not to hear it, I don't feel like an adult nor a person worthy of normal things people do in life ! I've been with him 11 years and we're not even engaged and I've had to beg for us to have more children and he is still telling me we have to wait till the end of the month ! Am I asking too much? He says I get to do what I like in the day but it would be nice to also be treated as a person not just a mummy and house keeper xx