Aibu to sit on the sofa for most of the day?

[Fruitteatime]

It's half term, with work and school I rarely have a day at home where I can do nothing so today I am doing nothing. But I feel so guilty because I really need to clean and tidy because I never have motivation to do it and everywhere is a state. The lounge is an obstacle course and bathroom hasn't been cleaned for two weeks. Anyone else have pj days, where all they do is eat and watch TV? And if so how do you do it without feeling guilty?

Clean the bathroom sink, squirt bleach in the loo and put your feet up.

Fruitteatime, I don't think kids care (or even notice) if their house is small/cluttered/etc. Looking back, my childhood homes were certainly not perfect, in many ways, but I don't remember registering that. Kids are happy if their parents love them IMO. And if their parents are happy.

Life is too short for guilt.

I have sofa days quite often at the moment (pregnant and off work) but have to make sure housework etc is done or I can’t relax and I don’t enjoy it. Nothing more satisfying than sitting down with a cuppa knowing you have nothing to do the rest of the day

I have the house to clean, laundry to do and dinner to cook, preferably in time for 6pm. But am I doing it? Am I fuck.

Get comfy, relax, and do it when you're ready.

@IntermittentParps

Fruitteatime, I don't think kids care (or even notice) if their house is small/cluttered/etc. Looking back, my childhood homes were certainly not perfect, in many ways, but I don't remember registering that. Kids are happy if their parents love them IMO. And if their parents are happy.

I suppose I mainly feel guilty that I won't let my children invite friends round at the moment because you literally have to step over things to walk through the hallway, mostly bags, shoes and toys so not rubbish but still it's embarrassing and obviously would want bathroom to be clean for other people to use!

Done the bathroom and the loo now so that's a job accomplished. Will feed dd and walk the dog and then return to sofa.

Dust will still accumulate when we are long gone so enjoy your life

I do this every once in a while.

I don’t feel guilt about it because I rationalise that my body/brain need the rest, a battery recharge - and my wellbeing is more important than cleaning. I also generally feel more motivated to tackle things like that once I’ve allowed myself a bit rest beforehand rather than add it on to the end of an already busy day, so it’s win-win.

@hiredandsqueak

Done the bathroom and the loo now so that's a job accomplished. Will feed dd and walk the dog and then return to sofa.

Well done, I've hung a load of washing on the airer, so at least I won't feel guilty that dp has had to do it after work, as often happens. I can't bring myself to just do sink and loo as pp suggested, which is stupid as it's be better than it is now

I suppose I do need rest and time to enjoy life but I'm not enjoying it because of how pants I feel. My period is nearly two weeks overdue, last month I was 3 weeks late after having a virus and I suspect vaccine might have something to do with this month's delay as have been very regular for the past year.

I cant manage it. Before I had kids i would have done. If we stay home having a lazy day i always end up doing some household task but at leisurely pace

For the first time since having the dc so 14 years. I am planning to have one annual leave week when they are at school (as opposed to sch hols), and get some me time in maybe I will manage to get a few hours ofjust binge watching tv lol

They can play out!

Don’t feel bad or listen to people getting hysterical over filthy houses. I’m making rest a priority today too before the madness of half term.
Enjoy it.

No one is ever unreasonable for spending a day reading or watching shit TV. Hope you enjoyed it.

Is it normal to never be in the mood for cleaning

It is perfectly normal. Anyone with any sense hates cleaning as it's dull, boring and a complete waste of time that can be better spent reading books and drinking wine.

I live in a large house with a dog that moults constantly, a husband that seems to do the same and two teenagers who leave a trail of debris wherever they go (as does the husband). Cleaning is a painful and pointless exercise. As long as the basics are done, just leave it and blitz when you can't stand it anymore after a couple of months.

YANBU

I have a lot of pj & duvet days.

the more kids I had the less guilty I felt. I knew I needed to look after myself in order to look after others so I got better at being "selfish". (not real selfishness, but self-preservation)

But there was a crystal clear moment a few years ago when within 24 hours all of our kids became ill with a horrible D&V bug and the next day DH joined them. it was total carnage.

So there I was on day 3 of looking after 8 people ( by then DD developed an ear infection too), being utterly exhausted and feeling so nauseated from what went down including countless rounds of scraping sick off stuff, standing in the landing at 4am trying to figure out which person to help first. I just wanted to sleep.
And at that moment I vowed that I shall never ever feel guilty again for resting or sleeping. Not for a second.
So I don't anymore.

Thank you for your kind words, it seems that I am not unreasonable even if I feel I am. I am glad I got off the sofa to make a meal from scratch after watching the ultra processed food documentary

@Morgan12

I could never sit and do nothing if my house was that untidy. It takes me less than 5mins to clean the bathroom. I can't understand why it has been left for two weeks! It will be filthy!

Because people have different priorities

We all need duvet days, and where I am it's been raining all day so it's perfect timing. We've pottered, I internet shopped, we've eaten and watched several films. Now in the bed, surfing mn until sleep happens!

@FangsForTheMemory

Clean the bathroom sink, squirt bleach in the loo and put your feet up.

You just described my entire cleaning regime

@dudsville

We all need duvet days, and where I am it's been raining all day so it's perfect timing. We've pottered, I internet shopped, we've eaten and watched several films. Now in the bed, surfing mn until sleep happens!

yup. rain all day. lots of doing fuck all.

we have so much to do in the next 8 weeks (hosting 5 birthday parties in July is just some of it ) I feel I just need this calm before the storm.

kids just had an hour of dancing to stuff on YouTube. normally I join in with my drunk wedding guest routines. today I just clapped and shook my feet a bit. bliss

Take an hour to do the worst bits then relax and you'll feel better

YABU to sit on the sofa when you could be laying on the sofa

I do a 30:15. 30 minutes of something nice (TV, book, phone call, chat, mumsnet, gaming) and then 15 minutes of fast and furious cleaning or gardening. Sometimes it is 45:15 and sometimes 15:30 of I get into a task. Try and find a balance that works for you!

Do the tasks OP, I often battle with this and whenever I do what I need to I feel much better. Sitting on the sofa for me would make me feel down at the end of the day and unaccomplished.

Put on some tunes you'll soon get in the mood and some motivation!