I'm gonna feel like this forever :(

[asnugglysnerd]

My partner of 4.5yrs broke up with me last week and I can't stop crying. We had been approved for fostering 2 months ago after a year long process, and that day, had a matching meeting for 2 kids.

She couldn't deal with my anxiety anymore, even though I'd tried and tried to take steps to help myself :(

I'm heartbroken and cannot imagine this feeling ever going away.

AIBU thinking that I'm going to be in love with her forever and this feeling won't go away?

Youre not unreasonable to feel that way in your heart but in your head you need to realise this isn't going to be the case.

I don't know if a single person who hasn't been able to move on from heartbreak eventually.

You're experiencing a loss right now. Like a bereavement. You need to move through the cycle And you will

It's been a week. You need to give yourself some time, it's still really raw. I've been there, I think we all have and we do move on eventually. You'll wallow for a while and you probably won't actively do anything different but one day you'll notice you haven't thought about her for half a day, and that'll turn into a day, and that'll turn into a week and eventually you'll have moved on. As copper said, it's like a bereavement, but you will get through it.

I'm so sorry to hear that, op. You're heartbroken and it takes time to recover. 4.5 years is a long time to be with someone and it will take some time to heal and adjust. Did you live together?

I hope you have supportive friends and family and that you get some help for your anxiety that works

Yes, we have a house, mortgage, joint cars & finances, and 2 dogs.

It's an absolute mess :(

This is a setback.

Someone unable to cope with/recover from setbacks , hurt feelings, disappointment/heartbreaks would struggle to cope with fostering.

@2bazookas

This is a setback.

Someone unable to cope with/recover from setbacks , hurt feelings, disappointment/heartbreaks would struggle to cope with fostering.

Certainly a setback, a break up wasn't on the cards. At least not to me.

I've not been through something like this, and am totally in love with her. I now have to reevaluate my entire life - my house, my dogs, my job, the prospect of fostering... so at the moment I feel hopeless.

Of course fostering is no longer on the cards, but prior to this I had no reason to doubt that she and I would have made excellent foster carers.