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How to ask friend to add me on Whatsapp?

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JWatts29 · 03/06/2021 23:11

Hey all,

I probs should have posted this in social skills forum, but it sort of is a (friendly, platonic) relationship, and I need advice!

Recently, one of my old school friends whom I have known since I was like 5 and have always kept in touch with time-to-time since leaving school deleted their FB/Whatsapp.

They didn't delete me personally - they deleted their whole account. I don't have their phone number, so have sort of lost touch and feel it is a bit of a shame as we would message etc.

I do have them on Linkedin (which they haven't yet deleted), and apparently I can message their deactivated FB account and they will see when they login (which they sometimes do).

I am a very socially shy person (if you know what i mean), so wanted to reach-out to them through one of the ways above to ask for their number (and offer mine) so we can add each other on Whatsapp. You know, in a friendly - not overformal and creepy sort of way...

Was just wondering if some trained minds on here could give me some tips that would relieve my anxiety about this and get me 'over the line' in doing it. Any suggestions, please? :)

I was thinking something like: 'hey , noticed you deleted fb/whatsapp - hope you're okay? Just wondered if we could add on Whatsapp - I really don't want to lost touch!! My number is . :)'

Would something like that be okay? Cheers so much for any advice - you guys are lifesavers in sparing anxiety!

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KihoBebiluPute · 03/06/2021 23:21

I would edit slightly to "hey , noticed you deleted fb/whatsapp - hope you're okay? I really don't want to lost touch but don't have any other ways of contacting you. My number is and my email is @_ please link up to me in whatever way works for you."

Better to be flexible and emphasise that you don't mind what method they prefer for keeping in touch imo.

CeibaTree · 03/06/2021 23:24

If they have deleted whatsapp then there's no point asking them to keep in touch that way - why don't you phone or text them and ask what the best way to keep in touch now is.

JWatts29 · 03/06/2021 23:28

Hi @CeibaTree - sorry, I made a typo. They didn't delete their Whatsapp, it was their Instagram (which we also used to message). Sorry for the confusion!!

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TeamNegan · 03/06/2021 23:29

I think what you’ve written is absolutely fine, OP Smile

CeibaTree · 03/06/2021 23:30

Ohh ok that makes more sense - if you have their phone number you can just message them on WhatsApp then, you don't need them to add you on there to do that :)

Womencanlift · 03/06/2021 23:31

Have they changed their number or just deleted WhatsApp? If it’s still the same number do you not have them in your contacts where you can text them on your phone messaging rather than WhatsApp?

I get that even if you are in chats with people on WhatsApp you may not have their number but that is more likely for distant acquaintances not long time friends

Womencanlift · 03/06/2021 23:32

Ah sorry OP cross posted

Foxhasbigsocks · 03/06/2021 23:33

I think I would go with a low key message on WhatsApp - eg hi x, hope all good? And then some light news or info you have to share. Eg that you went somewhere / did something or film you’ve watched on the tv.

Happyrascalsmummy · 03/06/2021 23:42

You can get their mobile number from WhatsApp, no need to ask for it. Every chat I use on WhatsApp shows the other people's numbers regardless of whether I know them personally and have their contact details.

RickiTarr · 04/06/2021 00:11

That sounds absolutely fine.

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