Why do so many people think that when you have a husband/wife you can no longer socialise with the opposite sex? I was out last weekend and ended up bumping into an old male class mate. We chatted and all had a drink and a laugh, no flirting/inn appropriateness, and he added me on social media. We started catching up, still no flirting or anything out of order, just general chat about what each other does now, and I said I’m married 4 years and he said oh right, I shouldn’t be talking to you then! Is it wrong to message a male platonically when you are married?