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To think this isn't going to work?

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pigglepot · 03/06/2021 19:11

We have recently relocated several hundred miles from London where we both work for lots of good reasons that I won't bore you with. My wfh policy is 2 days a week in the office when Covid allows and DH is probably likely to be something similar. We will need to get on trains at 6 or 7am to be able to get into the office and the plan was to stay overnight and do consecutive nights. We've got one 15 month old daughter. I'm also 6 months pregnant.

My husband went down to the office yesterday morning. This is the first time either of us have been down since moving out of London. We were up at 5:30 with our daughter then he handed her over at 6:30am to get the train. I then walked her to nursery, came home and did a days work at home along with assorted chores, picked her up again and did bath time bedtime etc in the usual way. Today she was up at 5am and I've had a really busy day at work again. DH is back at 8:30 ish tonight. I am utterly exhausted. I can't even be bothered to cook dinner or do anything- currently lying on the bed. I know being pregnant is definitely not helping but it's going to get harder not easier when I've also got a newborn who is keeping me up all night. Have I lost the plot thinking this might work as a relocation plan?!

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NurseryFlirt · 03/06/2021 19:20

It'll be easier when you're in the swing of it and you've set up your coping strategies and you're in the routine of it. The first time you do anything it'll be much harder. Good job for getting through it, you can do it!

maddening · 03/06/2021 19:36

I think it could definitely work. When you have a newborn you will be on mat leave. It will be one evening by yourself and one evening he is back late and then he will be home for 3 days, even living closer to London, unless you are close in commutes are naff.

And your dd being up at 5ish won't last forever.

BestOfABadLot · 03/06/2021 19:39

I wouldn't make a judgement on whether it will work or not yet. Presumably you'll get some maternity leave so at least your work won't be an issue when you have a newborn? (Although obviously it'll be harder caring for two little ones when DH is away). When you're staying away overnight at least you'll get a guaranteed full night's sleep.

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