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Sharing accomodation

32 replies

idontknow54321 · 03/06/2021 15:24

So we've booked a cottage near my SiL to visit & see niece +
nephew. Found out MiL and FiL are coming for the weekend and apparently staying in our cottage with us. SiL has not asked us if that's ok. AIBU to think that given Covid and given hubby not yet vaccinated it would have been nice of my SiL to check we were happy with this set up?!

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BackforGood · 03/06/2021 15:28

So you have found somewhere for your family to stay, and booked and paid for it, then, without asking, your SiL has invited someone else to come and stay in that accommodation ?? Hmm

Nothing to do with Covid. That is just overstepping so many boundaries.

ThursdayWeld · 03/06/2021 15:29

Never mind Covid, I would be livid! Angry

DriedIris · 03/06/2021 15:30

Where will they sleep? Is there even room?

Castlepeak · 03/06/2021 15:34

Since Covid I have had to become the wicked witch of my family. At this point I wouldn’t even hesitate to shut that down. My angst and tears and anxiety wore out last December.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 03/06/2021 15:40

Ha! So she’s not prepared to offer them a place to stay with her, but is perfectly happy to volunteer your holiday accommodation?! What a cheeky bint! Tell them no bloody chance!

DelphiniumBlue · 03/06/2021 15:42

What has DH to say to all this? His sister, his parents, I bet he knew this was on the cards at the very least.

BlueDucky · 03/06/2021 15:44

Who's paying for their share then? What if you'd wanted to get romantic?

Rudeness

RipplesBips · 03/06/2021 15:44

@DelphiniumBlue

What has DH to say to all this? His sister, his parents, I bet he knew this was on the cards at the very least.
Absolutely! It's ALWAYS a man's fault OP. That's the golden rule of Mumsnet
MusicWithRocksIn1t · 03/06/2021 15:45

Can you transfer the booking or cancel and get a refund and book somewhere smaller so there isn't room for them?

Maybe a bit mean but I'd be tempted to do this

AuntieMarys · 03/06/2021 15:46

How rude of SIL. I HATE sharing accommodation, even with people I like. Tell them to go to a hotel

Notaroadrunner · 03/06/2021 15:49

Tell them there's no space and therefore they will have to stay with SIL. Even if there is space you should have been asked, not just told. Any chance they had asked Dh?

TheLastLotus · 03/06/2021 15:51

You don’t even need covid as an excuse this is beyond rude. A firm no would suffice!

caringcarer · 03/06/2021 15:58

Tell them you are having romantic getaway do no parents or pil allowed. Your sil has some nerve. I hope your DH will be setting his sister straight.

Allllchange · 03/06/2021 16:02

There are usually rules when you book a place that you have to say how many are staying and can't have above that?

User57327259 · 03/06/2021 16:05

What has DP or DH said about the PILs coming to stay in your accommodation?
I would wonder if DP/DH has discussed this with SIL or PILs. How would any of the ILs know if there are sufficient beds for any extra people?
It is very rude to hitch up on anyone's accommodation. If you let this happen it could be the start of them all walking right over you.

Modestandatinybitsexy · 03/06/2021 16:40

Would you even have space? Are you PIL the type to expect the best room? Would they be contributing to accommodation or food costs? CF of all of them to assume as well!

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idontknow54321 · 03/06/2021 17:27

Indeed @Castlepeak, anxiety sky high and this is not helpful I'm afraid :(

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idontknow54321 · 03/06/2021 17:32

Thanks all! Feel very mean as it is my In-Laws who we haven't seen for ages as have been shielding most of the year. There is space for them so ok from that point of view. There was talk of them coming down at the same time we were there but just the lack of clear convo re exact plans and exactly where they would stay that irks me esp. given Covid.

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DriedIris · 03/06/2021 17:54

This would absolutely fuck me off. Have PIL even asked you? Or offered to pay towards it?

If they haven't spoken to you directly I'd act very surprised when they do, and say "sorry, that won't be possible. Perhaps you could book into the travelodge/premier inn nearby".

IntoAir · 03/06/2021 18:28

Your DH needs to say to his sister & parents a big fat "No" That is so rude.

RickiTarr · 03/06/2021 18:31

You have names of guests when you booked. How do your in laws know the owner will be okay with extra guests being added to the booking?

Mydarlingmyhamburger · 03/06/2021 18:33

Who said they could stay?

RampantIvy · 03/06/2021 18:38

Do they even know there is room for them? Can you tell them that there isn't enough room?

Can your husband tell them it isn't happening? Your SIL had np right to do this to you.

Chloemol · 03/06/2021 18:39

I would just go back to sil and say how nice it will be to see the in laws, must be nice for her having them to stay at hers

Then when she mentions the cottage say sorry, no room, Covid etc so they can stay at yours

WellLarDeDar · 03/06/2021 18:50

are they going to contribute to the accommodation booking?