To be feeling verbally abused?

[yesterdayschild]

My husband of many years is wearing me out with his constant pick, pick picking at me. Already today and its only 12 noon, he has had a rant about the way I left the hose pipe, the way I closed the lid on the bird feeder, emptying washing up water away when it was still being used and a scratch on the car which he says must be my fault.
He stands over me and with a horrible face he rants on and on. I feel like screaming!! This happens every day, all day!

Is divorce an option?

What happens if you walk away and refuse to listen?

Do you want to split up? I couldn’t tolerate this. What happens if you tell him to shut the fuck up?

Tell him to get fucked (if he's just a boring nag all of a sudden).
Seek help and support if this is a pattern of abuse, and get a divorce.

You deserve better. Nobody wants to live life like that - choose joy and freedom for yourself.

Would he accept this behaviour from you?
If that's a no then why should you?
Life is too short to live like this everyday.

The fact that the poll right now is 100% yanbu means 100% run away.

It's pure abuse and he shouldn't disrespect you like that

If it was happening to me I would say "I feel sorry for you that you feel so inadequate that you have to put me down in order to make yourself feel better. It's gotten to be a habit and it stops today otherwise you can start looking for another scapegoat".
He won't like being challenged but walk away and refuse to engage with him until he learns to speak to you with some respect.
Good Luck

If this is your life, then you are being abused by a bully.

Ring Women's Aid for a chat.

If you have children listening to this, God help them.

You do not have to accept this.

Is leaving the house an option?

I wouldn’t encourage you to give up on your marriage so easily.

I know I have a habit of nagging my other half, doesn’t mean I don’t love him I just have a way I like things done. However, when I see it’s getting too much for him I hold back - I’d start by telling your partner how you are feeling and give him a chance to change his behaviours.

has he always been like this?

Hes sounds a bully, but to be fair it annoys me if the hose pipe is put away properly, it doesnt take long to do it right

Its very clearly more than one instance.

Can't you divorce him?

Tell him he's being an arsehole.

Have a few handy phrases at the ready and trot them out every time he rants on. Some examples:
I wish I was perfect like you - if you were chocolate you'd eat yourself.
Stop being such a horrible nag
Shut up, I'm sick of listening to you ranting on
Fuck off and leave me alone
DO NOT apologise. If pushing back every time fails, consider ltb