To feel embarrassed?

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Going through a tough time of late. Family issues, work, health, a friend passed away recently etc. Today at the school gate a mum I have known for a few months said 'You always look so sad. Tearful even. Are you OK?' I thought I was hiding it but now embarrassed to think I look on the verge of tears all the time. I said I was fine but went very red-faced which made it all worse.

You don't have anything to be embarrassed about. It's quite lovely that your new friend was thoughtful and asked you how you were; she has probably been a bit concerned. Try not to worry about your response either - you're evidently going through a very tough time and often, despite our best efforts, it shows. Look after yourself x

You have been through stuff, and you are upset. That is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Sounds like new friend was trying to really check in with you which is nice, though I wouldn't feel able to open up to a new friend so probably would have said I was fine too.

Doesn't waste another thought on feeling embarrassed about being sad. Hope you feel better soon.

Don’t be embarrassed. Tell her why.

Sorry you are going through a tough time. How kind of her to see if she could help. I never understand people who find this sort of thing embarrassing but if that's the response it gave you then so be it. Why don't you open up to her a little, it might help.

Can you articulate why you said you were fine when you aren't?

She sounds like a good friend who is concerned about you. In my experience you learn who your friends are when the chips are down
I hope you’re ok

I think she would regret making you feel embarrassed as it was a question that came from kindness I would take it.
That your feelings show a little - that's nothing to be embarrassed about, we're not machines, and a kind human noticed and thought of you (I'm assuming her attitude was kind not mocking). Sensitive kind people notice the little clues that others don't, so it doesn't mean you have a neon sign over your head for everyone.
I hope you can feel cared for not embarrassed, once you have got over the surprise.

I think she sounded concerned about you, and very kind. We all go through periods of feeling sad, and I don't think it is anything to be embarrassed about.

Saying you are fine when you clearly aren't isn't always a good idea because people who might be able to support or help you feel rebuffed and may not want to offer support again.

You are being unreasonable to think you have to hide how you feel all the time and to be embarrassed that someone noticed.

It's not a weakness to be unhappy. It's ok to say I'm not ok.

This woman sounds like she really cares, she spotted your unhappiness when most people probably don't.

If you needed a friend she might be a good choice.

Please don't be embarrassed. Please to your GP about how you feel, if you haven't already.

Speak to you GP, sorry.

No need to feel embarrassed that she asked - it's good that someone noticed you might not be okay, and cares/is kind enough to check on you. Everyone has bad times so there's nothing embarrassing about that bit either, it's human.

She sounds lovely. And I hope you're okay.

Oh thats just gutting isnt it. I think some people are very good at reading others. You can always say no im not ok but i dont really want to talk about it.

I was like you and broke down at the side of the swimming pool when the kids were having lessons. I couldn't stop crying. It was awful. Not one person approached me. The other mums were looking over and did nothing. Eventually a man gave me a towel for my face, but he didn't ask if I was ok either, but at least he tried. It was a posh private gym too, where I'd on a few occasions chatted to people. I'd rather be the woman who asked you if you were ok. It's kind and it's human.

She sounds like a lovely person to have as a friend , it's surprisingly hard to ask someone if they are ok , quite possibly as we don't know what to do with the answer
Sometimes it helps to open up , I'm sorry you were too embarrassed to at that moment , maybe ask her for a coffee as she has made the first move , it's good to have someone neutral to talk with and she sounds like she's willing
I'm sorry to hear you've had a rotten time

There is absolutely no need to feel embarrassed. She was reaching out to you - reach back. Could you text her and say "Thank you for asking me how I was today, it means a lot. I said i was ok because i was embarrassed but the truth is I'm struggling"