I am a longtime lurker, rare poster but need some advice. Long story short, I have 2 kids, 7 and 4. Older child is autistic and needs daily occuparional therapy and slt interventions, younger child also needs daily slt interventions. I have just built myself up in my career to a place that I am well know, respected, widely recommended. I am good at what I do, have high-profile, interesting work and it gives me a buzz BUT it is also highly responsible and very stressful. Hours can be very long, although as much as possible I fit this around kids dinner and bedtimes. I find it impossible to compartmentalise, however, and am overwhelmed by the stress of my job and my children's needs, both therapeutic and practical. My older child is highly anxious, doing badly at school and needs way more of my attention than I can currently give him. I have been toying with the idea of quitting my job. DH is supportive and financially it would be fine. But somehow I just cannot let go. I have this fear that one day we will need my wage (DH is currently well but has a medical condition that could play havoc with his ability to work in a few years). I am terrified that if I quit, I will lose my reputation and my edge and won't be able to find work.again when I need to. But my kids need me now and are suffering without me and I desperately want to be there for them and not be so stressed and so distracted. So, should I just quit and let things sort themselves out? Or keep the job? There are no half measures, reducing hours won't actually work because it's the mental stress of the job rather than the hours that's the issue.