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AIBU?

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Work colleague - say something or keep quiet...

149 replies

Ekerty72 · 01/06/2021 18:41

Need some advice!

I work in a lovely place where we follow a shift pattern. A lady joined our company a few months ago, haven't worked with her a lot due to a lot of opposing shift patterns.

Anyway I was saying goodbye to her a few days ago, I noticed she was on annual leave the following day so said have a lovely day off. She said to me shhhh dont mention it's my day off I want to keep it quiet. No problem, each to their own. She then went on to explain that in her last job she books her annual leave far in advance and then never mentions in the hope that the boss will forget to cover it and then they'll call her up and ask where she is and she'll have the delight of telling them that she's on annual leave and they should check their leave calendar. She had quite a smug smile on her face as well which I found completely distasteful. I'm guessing from that, that she intends to do this with this job as well.

I am just shocked that anyone would take pleasure in this and when I think about our lovely office I feel really sad that someone would come in with this attitude.

Would I be being unreasonable to being this to the attention of my supervisor? Thing is she would probably guess it was me who had said something which would be a bit uncomfortable.

So AIBU shall I leave it, keep my nose out and if the boss did their role correctly then the shift would always be covered or AINBU should I tell them what she told me so they can 100% ensure the shift is covered but also as a sort of heads up for maybe any future issues.

Thank you all 😊😊

OP posts:
YoComoManzanas · 01/06/2021 18:44

Keep your beak out. You could become the rota police yourself and loudly announce everyone's upcoming annual leave a month in advance if you like.

BlueDucky · 01/06/2021 18:44

I wouldn't bother. It seems a really weird thing to do though, doesn't really say "team player" does it.

BlackRibboner · 01/06/2021 18:45

I would leave it. Covering shifts is for her and her manager/supervisor to worry about and if that's her general attitude I'm sure it will show in other things as well. Keep your distance and let her carry on as she sees fit.

Reallybadidea · 01/06/2021 18:46

What a freaking weirdo Hmm

lioncitygirl · 01/06/2021 18:47

What!!?? Who does that?

AnAwesomePossum · 01/06/2021 18:47

Leave it. A decent manager/ supervisor would make a note in their own calendar anyway so it would never pan out that way.

WonkyCactus · 01/06/2021 18:48

It is an odd thing to do, I would stay out of it though.

Hurr8cane84 · 01/06/2021 18:48

Leave it. If her supervisor is doing his/her job, they'll know. What kind of job is this where you book holiday without needing approval and a hand over anyway???

Librariesmakeshhhhappen · 01/06/2021 18:48

She is so weird.

Although, I'm not sure how it happens to work out for her. She'd be blocked out on the calendar for her leave days as soon as they're approved. If someone messes that up then that's on them. No one needs to remind their employer that they've got annual leave.

Just leave it alone. You know she's a strange person now at least.

Jeschara · 01/06/2021 18:48

Leave it. Strange thing to say though.

JellyTumble · 01/06/2021 18:49

YABU, just leave it. It’s nothing to do with you and if management are doing their job properly it shouldn’t be an issue.

If they’re not, this should be the wake up call they need to check rotas regularly.

Ekerty72 · 01/06/2021 18:49

I was so shocked!!!! Who does that?!?!?

I think @BlackRibboner is right, I don't need to say anything as her awesome attitude will no doubt shine through in time 🤣🤣

OP posts:
shivawn · 01/06/2021 18:49

She sounds quite spiteful and immature but I wouldn't bother reporting it.

Sparklesocks · 01/06/2021 18:50

Yes it is strange - maybe not much going on in your life if that’s how you get your kicks!
But I’d stay out of it too

pinkyredrose · 01/06/2021 18:53

How immature.

Ostara212 · 01/06/2021 18:55

I wouldn't say anything unless it impacts someone's workload

But how weird is she!

EL8888 · 01/06/2021 18:55

She sounds like a charmer Hmm. I would keep out of it but be mindful she’s not a team player and one to watch

MadeOfStarStuff · 01/06/2021 18:57

How totally strange! I could understand if there was a real reason but just on the off chance she might get to be spiteful and smug is just bizarre!

iwishiwasonhol · 01/06/2021 18:58

i wouldnt say anything ,and i work in a large supermarket where people are often on the rota /not on the rota when they are supposed to be, so now i just think tough ,not my problem management should be better organised

Tanfastic · 01/06/2021 18:58

Very strange. Who could be arsed? Just take your annual leave and surely a line manager keeps tabs on this kind of thing when sorting the shifts anyway? I know mine does Confused

TheQueef · 01/06/2021 19:03

She's probably just trying to build a bit of co-worker camaraderie....

bonfireheart · 01/06/2021 19:07

She obviously has an overinflated sense of herself.

User629202 · 01/06/2021 19:08

Don’t be a tattle tale, especially for such a total non-event. You’ll look petty AF, and since she isn’t actually proposing to do anything wrong there’s no point anyway.

BonnyEm · 01/06/2021 19:08

She wouldn't get on very well at my old work place where you couldn't book any leave until each person wanting holiday leave had to sort cover for their own shifts.
She sounds very strange. I wouldn't say anything though. People will figure her out soon enough.

Cassandraprobs · 01/06/2021 19:09

She sounds quite sad to me rather than spiteful, that even on her time off she needs attention from work - I wouldn't like to have my leave interrupted by a work call just to 'get one over' on the boss. Does she seem quite lonely/needy?