Should I give him a piece of my mind?

[Pinkpepper79]

Long story short OH was supposed to be on holiday this week his week was approved a month ago. My problem is
A) it's half term week and our teenager has just finished GCSEs so thought this might be a good opportunity to celebrate as a family
B) I booked my holiday off work and now have less than a week left I waited until his was approved b4 applying for my holiday to ensure we could be together.
C) OH won't be back until next week. It's a 7 hour drive for him to get to work
D) OH boss was supposed to be completing the job with him. The boss has now said he is needed closer to home so not going.
E) We found out last night that the reason he is needed back here is because the boss has a family holiday booked at the end of this week.
I am now spending my holiday on my own I am so angry that I need to get it off my chest. I want to speak to boss and get my point across. Boss and OH have been friends for years and I know him. Would it be unreasonable for me to get involved or should I let the boss totally ruin our holiday and let it go

Doesn’t matter that you know his boss, you can’t get involved in your OH’s work issues, even if they affect you. If my DH did that I’d be furious.

Your husband can’t tell his boss he’d like a family holiday too?

I'd be mortified I'd my husband had a pop at my boss.

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You would be unreasonable to speak to your OHs boss about your OH being called in to work despite a scheduled holiday.

Depending on type of job, it would be either reasonable or unreasonable to talk to your OH about whether your OH can raise the issue with his boss himself. Not really enough information to say.

Although a 7hr drive to work is ridiculous. Perhaps OH should look for a new job?

Stay out of your husband’s work. It’s annoying, but that’s life.

Good God, of course you can't get involved with his boss on this!

Its annoying, but you can't go telling your husbands boss off.

I know I shouldn't get involved but I am so angry. He is staying away all week. The company is a small company with no HR department or by the looks of it no care and consideration for anyone. OH has now totally been dumped on from a great height, he is a diligent hard worker who just gets on and says nothing. The company he now works for is a totally different type of job to the one OH has done in the past he has only been there 7 months and has no engineering experience or knowledge. Now the boss has put him in charge of a team, the work is very dangerous engineering construction with the risk of explosion. They are using heavy machinery, cranes and dangling from safety harnesses. OH has been doing 14hr days can that even be legal? His boss has no regard for the safety of his staff and does really dangerous things eg sending them up in a cherry picker in high winds. The boss is the only one with qualifications in engineering and the team of staff are not qualified in the engineering trade. I am terrified something will go horribly wrong. But so long as the boss gets paid and has a holiday with his family stuff the rest of them.

Firstly he’s not your child. Of course you can’t go an speak ro his boss. What are you even thinking thinking that you can ?

And your husband is an adult. It’s his choice to work there. If he doesn’t like it he can look for another role.

Your DH has a boss problem and should probably take a week off to find a new job

Your husband should look for another job if he's risking his safety etc. Don't talk to his boss though, very unprofessional not to mention mortifying for your husband.

You posts scream it’s all the bosses fault and your husband is like a helpless small child. Unless there is a back story here and he has additional needs then he is a grown up who chooses to work there. If he has an issue with the working conditions it’s him who has to step up

If you’ve an issue you take it up with your husband

Your husband has to sort this out himself. Do NOT contact his boss fgs

No, he is a grown man. He can speak to his boss. Maybe he doesn't want to go on holiday and this is an excuse.

You need to stay out if it.
Your DH needs to start being more assertive, not just for his own sake but for the safety of his colleagues - if he’s the only qualified one then he has a better insight into the risks they’re taking. If he’s asked to do something he knows is unsafe, then he needs to refuse to do it.

His boss has no regard for the safety of his staff and does really dangerous things eg sending them up in a cherry picker in high winds.

If he has issues with health and safety at work he needs to raise them. It's nothing to do with your holiday though.

Your OH should contact Health & Safety Exce and find out what the legal position is about the work he is being asked to do.

If you have an actual health and safety concern, raise it with the HSE.

Your husband should start looking for a job, else where.

YANBU to be annoyed about this and to expect your husband to push back but YWBU to step in even if you do know his boss. Your husband should be doing that for himself.

The job sounds really risky as well as far away, why isn't he looking nearer by for work, is it really good money, on the oil rigs or something?

But it sounds like this is the latest straw in hearing about all the ways your DH works in poor conditions without him doing much about it. That would frustrate me.