to be annoyed that dd has not gone to bed and she has school in the morning,

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Dd is six, dp was supposed to be putting her to bed tonight as I have a load of school work to do. I went into the living room at 7pm and said in a very light hearted manner dd needs to go for her bath and bed now and kissed her goodnight.

I have just gone into the front room to relax with a cup of tea before going to bed myself and they are both sat their watching a DVD wandering why I am annoyed

Bloody hell, I'd be annoyed too!

God, if she's anything like my dd she will be like a buck cat in the morning!!

I'd be furious. How can she concentrate on a day at school after so little sleep? Naughty dp!

at this hour???????

Even my dh who is lovely but a total f**kwit when it comes to good judgement calls on parenting, would not allow our 5 yr old to be up beyond 20.00 (except on special occasions)

Your having a laugh!!
Good grief, id be furious.

How come she hasnt fallen asleep during a long film?

I don;t know I suspect she has been filled with e numbers. He is not at work tomorrow so it taking her in so he thinks that as he will be the one dealing with the grumpy child it is up to him when she goes to bed.

What is it they're watching?

My kids didn't go to bed until 8.45 tonight but their cousins were here & we were just getting dinner at that time

She normally goes to my mums at 6 in the morning when I go to work - but dp is saying that as he is at home she gets another 2 hours in bed which is why he let her stay up 4 hours after her bed time

Spiderman

Am amazed at your dp. Stupid man.

Am also a bit that you can lock yourself away so successfully. I can't imagine doing that. There's no way I'd miss a big hug at bedtime if I was in the house.

IME kids that age still have a body clock and will still wake up at the same time, not sleep in like we do.

Which means she'll be very tired.
YANBU about the bedtime.

I did the bedtime hug at 7pm and made clear it was bedtime! I am working in the dining room with the radio on, I just assumed she had gone to bed and they were being very quiet so I would not go in.

Never leave a job to a man, it will never get done as well as you could do it.
Unless, you make a list detailing every single moment of the task to be completed.

Blardy useless!

How was she this morning?

I would be annoyed as well, mine are so cranky if they dont get enough sleep

I'd be mightily pissed off too, there have been times when dp has said to me that I should go and have a long soak in the bath or something and I come back down at say 8pm expecting kids to be on their way upto bed, and they still havent had dinner!
Now whenever he says he will cook I spend at least half an hour saying 'come on it's they ahve to be in bed in '

And, they (the men) get so annoyed when you tell them what to do, but lets face it, they CANT do it properly without being told!

I'd be annoyed too twinset.

Your post struck a cord because although dh is a fantastic father he's not good at sticking to meal/sleep routines and I find it hugely frustrating when I have to monitor him even when it's "his turn". What's the point? Almost less stressful doing it oneself .....gggrrrrrrr

Actually, I've taken to sticking up routines (times and everything) on the kitchen wall for him to follow and given him an actual kitchen timer to set. This stops me having to nag so much and dh responds to it quite well ....

No YANBU. Unless I am too!

My DH is hopeless with bedtime. The best he can manage is a very fierce 'DS#2! Go to bed!'...yeah, right, he's 4 He still thinks that it's OK to let them watch a DVD in our room at bedtime because years ago that worked because they'd all fall asleep within 30 mins. Not now.

He's got a lot better with many areas of childcare but bedtime is a closed book to him. And it infuriates me. I can be upstairs for an hour and a half by the time I've sorted out bath, pyjamas, teeth, listened to them read, read stories to them ... x 3! Which is fine. But then he expects me to come downstairs ready for a grown-up evening, when I'm just about ready for bed...