To be annoyed by colleague

[Justcurious93]

I have a work colleague who is in her 20s. She does have some minor health issues which impact on her, which I am sympathetic about. However every day she tells me how she is so exhausted and needs to take it easy and I'm starting to feel frustrated and it's really bringing me down. I know I am probably BU.

Is her 'taking it easy' actually affecting your work, ie, are you having to do part of her job? If so, that's not acceptable and you need to make your boss aware that she's not up to the job. If not, then try and be sympathetic as she's obviously struggling, and needs to get it off her chest. Personally I'm disabled and in constant pain which some days is worse, or much worse than others. My DH knows this but sometimes just saying out loud how I'm feeling seems to relieve the stress of it all somehow.

Agree with pp if it is affecting her work talk to your manager about it.

If it isn't and it is just irritating, that is life working beside people. The woman I usually sit beside talks about her tennis club constantly. I know so much about it I could rock up and be the club secretary without any training!

Is it in person or virtual. If the latter his mute or decline her call. If in person I would try and nip her chat in the bud

Maybe she feels guilty and is trying to justify her working speed or something? You could say something along the lines of I understand, don't worry, work at a pace you can manage, it'll get done.

If not, then try and be sympathetic as she's obviously struggling, and needs to get it off her chest

This is very kind of you to assume this, but I think you’re projecting. Most people I’ve worked with like this just do not stop moaning and have nothing wrong with them other than being a perpetual mood hoover.

It doesn't impact on my work too much, but on the few projects that we do together I feel like I end up taking on the brunt of it. I'm more experienced than her though which may be another reason why this happens (same job, same pay). I am really sympathetic when she is struggling with the health issues but it's tricky to maintain all the time when she's moaning despite having done nothing all weekend and lives at home with her parents!