To suggest separate rooms for some of the trip?

[Singingwiththepain]

Due to travel with a friend for 2 weeks late this summer but its the first time we've gone away together. I live alone, am a very independent person and so is she.

Is it rude or awkward to suggest that for 2 or 3 nights of the trip we have separate rooms? We are moving round a lot. We couldn't afford to do this all trip and having travelled with someone before where it got a bit much being together, I think having one or two nights to decompress and have our own space again could really help.

So wise Mumsnetters, it it rude? And if not, how do I suggest it without sounding awkward or like we won't get on?

I think it’s a great idea. Travelling with friends can be intense.

Sounds a great idea and especially if it is one of the cheaper places. I would just suggest it, a bit of a fait accompli.

Seems pretty sensible to me, I wouldn't be at all offended if a friend suggested that to me. But I would describe myself similarly to you.

Myself and DH are taking our father's away on holiday next year with our two DC. Each hotel room had two double beds and is expected to have between 4-5 people staying in them. It's really expensive but compared to the cost of the holiday and the risk of any fall outs we're stumping up the cash for 3 rooms.

I hate sharing a room with friends so I'd be delighted.

When booking I’d say something like ‘this place is super cheap, I might treat myself to my own room!’

Some places have a single rate - you can suggest separate rooms then

You could always suggest an AirBnB or other holiday cottage/apartment for a few days in the middle where it would be easier to get something with two rooms as a natural suggestion?

I'm a bit bemused at the assumption that you would share a room at all. I would I assume the whole time would be your own rooms unless you're on a very tight budget.

I would not want to share with a friend for more than a couple of nights.
Definitely book in a few nights where you won't be sharing. Air B&B?

Is she happy to share? Is she on a restricted budget too?

I don't do sharing. If I couldn't afford the cost of a room I don't think o would be going at all.

I wouldn't be sharing at all tbh and I wouldn't go if I had to share. I'm a bit antisocial though

I'd love that! Your friend might be relieved too!

Arrgh I couldn't share for any of it, tbh. I need time on my own.

Last time I went away for one night with friends I declined to share. I'm past that stage of wanting to share and much prefer my own space. So I'd absolutely want a few nights in separate rooms if I was going for a fortnight. Your friend will possibly be thrilled at the suggestion.

I think I’d rather opt for lower cost accommodation with two rooms than share a more expensive room. I would need my own space.

I am way past sharing - not even for one night.

I would prefer to be away for one week with separate rooms than two weeks sharing ..... that’s a v long time.

No way would I share a room. I like my own space and especially at night. I couldn't face actually waking up with someone else in the room.

I’d share with close friends no problem. Max 2 nights though. Not 2 weeks!

@LemonRoses

I think I’d rather opt for lower cost accommodation with two rooms than share a more expensive room. I would need my own space.

I completely get it, except that I am the exact opposite! I remember a trip to NY in a posh hotel with BFF and me sharing a room, we even opted for a double bed instead of two singles in order to have more space (two singles can take quite a bit of the room). So basically, depends on you and your friend, OP.

Like a few others, I don't know why you are sharing a room at ALL.

If you can afford it, I would be in separate rooms for the whole 2 weeks.

OK thanks everyone! Must admit it had never occurred to me to suggest separate rooms for the whole trip. Always just took it as a given you share but it's definitely appealing!

I think she may be concerned about cost of having separate rooms for most nights but will be brave and broach it and see! I just worry about offending her when I do!

I'd think it's better to risk offending her about getting separate rooms than what could happen if you actually do share a room for two weeks. I could see you getting on each other's nerves massively then.

Your friend is probably trying to think of ways to ask you the same thing. I can't see why any adult would choose to share a room if they had the option not to unless they were in a relationship.

If you can afford separate rooms, why not turn the whole question on its head when you put it to her? Instead of asking if you should consider separate rooms for a couple of nights ask if she would like to share for the odd night. That way you set the baseline at single rooms all holiday, allowing you to add sharing occasionally for economy.

Tell her you’re a light sleeper and find it difficult to nod off if someone else is in the room so you’d prefer your own room.