To be miffed by boyfriends comment

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We were discussing our relationship during the week.. we met last summer and have come through lockdowns and restrictions . Everything is going brilliantly . Both divorced, lat 40's , children but who are separate to our relationship.
We have short and long term
Plans up to a year . It's mutual ,equal and we're both thrilled.
I asked , in the context of our conversation , if he felt that we would be together if Covid hadn't happened in terms
Of us being each other's bubble outside of our children .
We both agreed that It was impossible to say and then he added that our relationship was a great distraction through the awfulness of lockdown initially . Before he said that , he said ... don't pick me up wrong here but.....
Aibu to be a bit miffed . I'm a little hungover too so may be overthinking ! The truth is , he is right.. it was a fantastic distraction for me . I was healing and never expected us to become a relationship but it's flourished through lockdown. The relationship really added to my healing from abusive ex/ split.
But I was a bit

Not really seeing the issue?

Oh sorry maybe I'm just a little delicate after too many gins yesterday.

This is a glass half full/empty reaction, and it's more about how you've chosen to hear it rather than the content of the message.

Ok thanks

What’s wrong with that? He was right, and you feel the same on reflection.

Honestly I'd not get too hung up on it , you are together you are happy and have a future planned with him I don't think he meant anything awful in his comment just focus on the now

If you think he's right and agree it was also a distraction for you what exactly are you miffed about?

A 'great distraction' sounds a good thing to me. I think you have picked it up wrong.

Would definitely say non issue. My family have been a great distraction.

I think I have too. Sorry

Agree, dosen't sound like he meant it that way at all ❤️

Don't ask questions you don't want to hear the answer to.

However, I don't think it's fair to be upset when you say yourself it was a fantastic distraction!

He's saying you made lockdown more bearable and gave him times to look forward to. If he hadn't have prefaced it do you think you wouldn't be miffed? The preface made it sound like he was going to say something bad but he didn't. So are you worried that you are missing the bad interpretation?

I mean- you asked. Unless you were doing it as a test to see what he’d say he’s entitled to be honest. And sounds like you feel the same way anyway!

I think on reflection that if we were both to be honest , it was a brand new relationship and we never expected it to develop as it has . We were both bruised and a little broken andwere of the mind that we'd enjoy the moment and see where we would go . It possibly was a convenience and a distraction. We were both lonely and a little sad and had issues with our kids and exes re child custody etc. Yet we fell in love and it's all good now with plans for the future.
Maybe he touched a nerve

Lockdown was crap. And image e you hadnt had each other.

OP you sound annoying

What’s the point of asking a loaded question like that if you’re going to get offended when he doesn’t answer it perfectly?

You asked for his opinion then had the audacity to feel “miffed” that he gave it. It’s essentially you playing silly games and testing him. He isn’t a mind reader, you can’t expect him to magically read your mind and guess the “right” answer in your head. Honestly some people 🙄