I feel like DS hates me

[SandIcy]

My DS is 5.5 months old and I feel like he hates me. When partner is at work I feed him, change him, play with him, take him for walks etc. He rarely smiles for me and as soon as he sees partner he starts smiling and if I'm holding him, he starts crying and as soon as I give him to partner he stops crying and is fine. He won't even go to sleep at night for me.

I just feel like he hates me as he obviously prefers his dad

There is now way a baby of 5 months has any sort of personal preference over you or your husband. You spend the majority of the time with him, so more likely to see the good the bad and just the neutral.

Babies may pick up on your mood and attitude though. If you approach him all frustrated and put out that he hates you, he could be reflecting that mood back.

Have a deep breath and provide the atmosphere you want, whether thats calm and relaxed or happy and fun.. it's not for a baby to dictate that

At that age he is t capable of hatred, or even of having a defined opinion about you. He probably smiled at your husband for the novelty factor. I promise he doesn’t hate you

*isn’t capable

He’s a baby, he isn’t capable of hate. From your title I thought you were going to say he was 14 or something like that! 😂

Try not to get too hung up on it. He may be picking up on your stress. Anyway, I’m sure as time goes by and you feel more confident things will flip. By the time he’s a toddler he’ll probably be glued to you. Don’t worry for now.

My FIL has an expression “new hands” when it comes to babies, they like novelty. Mine was the same, would howl when I was holding her, but was happy for my DH, my in-laws, the cleaner- i was the only person who couldn’t rock her to sleep or console her. now she’s stuck to me like glue. It will pass, the baby doesn’t hate you, just relax they change all the time at this age. My DD used to follow my DH around currently it’s me, no doubt soon she’ll be stuck to her dad’s leg again.

I've had three and they all adore their dad when they get home from work. And thank God they would stop crying for him, he was a novelty and it meant i could have a shower/cup of tea/whatever.

And with all three ive had periods where I've felt that they simply endure me.

It changes.