Fifty not fiery/am I turning into a grumpy old woman/has the worm turned?

[DryWhiteagainW]

Nit sure which talk place to put this. I don’t think I’m unreasonable and DONT say I’m menopausal but.....

Does anyone else feel like this.....

I’ve always been a fairly placid person, not judgy really, pretty relaxed and with an ability to let things go and give people the benefit of the doubt. I’m gregarious and my glass is most definitely half full most of the time.

But occasionally I just get thoroughly pissed off, can see through bull shitters and am finding it increasingly hard to keep my mouth shut. A friend of mine once said I could be blunt and as I get older I think my tolerance levels are decreasing. 99% of the time I get on with things.....but occasionally ...

DH leaving skid marks on the loo......I’ve had enough!
Doing all the house stuff....I’m not the slave, I work FT too!
Workmate who has been driving me mad for 6 years.....I flipped!
Bullshitter manager....I called him out!

What’s happening to me? Sometimes I don’t recognise myself. I don’t want to upset people.

I’m not horrible honestly. Please make me feel better.....

Wait until you hit 60

I reckon there is something in brain chemistry happens around this age, turns us a bit more assertive, less people-pleasing, bit more intolerant.

it's not at all, all bad. We may also give up on thinking we can change the world (so can make more peace with world as it is, don't feel so responsible to fix everything) & also find compassion for how complicated real life problems are - letting go of black-n-white perspectives.

You’re absolutely not horrible. Women are conditioned from an early age to look after everyone and bite our tongues. To ‘be kind’. With age comes wisdom and we start to see what a complete load of old bollocks this is. How much crap we’ve put up with over the years and how we’ve taken on the lion’s share of the work. And for what? So we get bloody angry about it and stop tolerating stuff that should never have been tolerated.

You can still be placid, relaxed, gregarious and positive. You also don’t have to put up with other people’s nonsense.

You sound very tolerant tbh. Not that age has got much to do with it , but I'm 40 and would've reacted the same in these situations.

Embrace it. It's wonderfully freeing. Sounds like you needed to have a word with your H, long ago, anyhow.

Absolutely not unreasonable about your lazy arse DH!

You do have to be more careful at work though.

Leaf that is true.
I guess when you’ve always been a get on with it type it comes as a bit of a shock to those around you when you’re not .....not a bad thing though I guess

I relate to this. I think a lot of it is that as I get older, I care so much less about what people think of me. I've always been overly polite in the past, even to arseholes and I just can't do it anymore. I think for me my confidence and assertiveness has grown with age. I can't stand fakery or bullshit any more either and feel life is too short to waste time on it. I left all social media 4 years ago because of it and it has been liberating.

yeOldeTrour agree about less black and white, you do realise life is infact a bit grey.

FiveShelties