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To move DS into his own room?

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lavenderandwisteria · 29/05/2021 07:13

Hi, ds is 5.5 months (so obviously younger than the recommended six.)

We had a few really bad nights this week where he woke up every 1/2 hours. Yesterday he woke at 6 and probably napped for less than two hours in the day: he seems to have a slight cold which seemed to contribute to poor sleep.

Ds doesn’t sleep well if we keep him up so since he’s been a couple of months old I have just gone to bed with him. Last night DH was going to stay up until midnight with ds in his own cot and then bring him into the crib but he was sleeping so decided to leave him.

He actually slept through. Not sure if he was just so tired or if it might actually work best.

So would it be really bad to move him and see how he gets on? He slept from 845 in the evening to 645 in the morning which is almost unheard of! When did your babies go into their own rooms?

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TheNinny · 29/05/2021 15:37

Moved DD the day she turned 6.months. I was hesitant but DH insisted we try it lol.she would sleep through sometimes but i was usually up once still up once. The first night she slept 9.30 to 4.30 and I felt like a new person. She has slept well since. Think maybe i would wake her up tossing and turning in my sleep.

motogogo · 29/05/2021 15:39

About 15 months, didn't work though, they wanted to be with us

TheNinny · 29/05/2021 15:42

Meant to add she is 19 mo and slept the worst from 4.5 - 5.5 months. It had started.to get better when we moved her. She was never terrible, usually only 1 waking but her worst night was 4. It seemed to suddenly get better at 5.5 months and then 6 mo pretty much sleeping through.

MyDcAreMarvel · 29/05/2021 15:46

The “my baby was fine posters” would you put your child on a car with no seat belt/car seat? Because the chances are they will never be needed and your child will be absolutely fine.
The reason to sleep with your baby until six months isn’t because the chance of an issue is high - it’s not, it’s because the consequences could be catastrophic.

Lsquiggles · 29/05/2021 16:11

We moved our daughter into her own room at 3.5 months old as she was getting too big for her moses basket and noises from my dp snoring/us turning over in bed would disturb her. She was just across the hall, we had a baby monitor set up and checked on her regularly so there was never any concern for us.

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lavenderandwisteria · 29/05/2021 16:26

I know mydc and I did try to make it clear we are just shy of six months, I didn’t really start the thread to hear what people did with their tiny babies (I hope) thirty plus years ago.

But there can be a grey area at around this age when babies outgrow cribs. Ds still fits in his - he’s below average - but I am wondering if he’s been waking up because of me and not me because of him!

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MyOtherProfile · 29/05/2021 17:15

@MyDcAreMarvel

The “my baby was fine posters” would you put your child on a car with no seat belt/car seat? Because the chances are they will never be needed and your child will be absolutely fine. The reason to sleep with your baby until six months isn’t because the chance of an issue is high - it’s not, it’s because the consequences could be catastrophic.
What a ridiculous post. Moving baby out just under 6 months to their own room is absolutely nothing like not using a car seat in a car!
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lavenderandwisteria · 29/05/2021 18:16

Quite a few posters have posted about moving their babies at significantly younger though myotherprofile

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SnackSizeRaisin · 29/05/2021 18:48

The risk of cot death is far higher at younger ages though. It's very rare over 3 months of age. Putting a baby in their own room at 5.5 months is akin to turning a child forward facing in the car at 5.5 years instead of 6 years. Ok perhaps not 100% ideal, but quite unlikely to cause a problem for the vast majority. And you have to weigh it up against other risks. If exhausted parents lead to car accidents, relationship breakdown, depression, or even unsafe co-sleeping, then that is also important to consider.
I put ours in her own room at 4 months. I am keeping her rear facing in the car until 6.

SnackSizeRaisin · 29/05/2021 18:52

Also - cot death is thought to be linked to sleeping too deeply, and the reason for keeping them in your room is so that they are slightly disturbed by parents breathing etc, to stop the sleep becoming very deep. So if you have a very light sleeper who constantly wakes due to minor noise, they are probably not at as much risk of cot death anyway. Or if you have a husband who snores loudly enough to be still heard in the baby's bedroom, then that is probably the same as keeping the baby in your room and not snoring.

Crazycakelady17 · 29/05/2021 18:55

Mine were 3 months 4 months and 3 years the first two were many years ago though.
Last one just wouldn’t sleep on her own.
At 5.5 months the risk is so small compared to 6 months and I think a more refreshed baby/parents is of far more benefit than the extremely small risk for the sake of two weeks

miltonj · 29/05/2021 18:56

2 Weeks will not make a difference. Just move them if that's what you want to do x

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lavenderandwisteria · 30/05/2021 10:55

Well, we tried it and it didn’t really work!

He still fits into his next to me crib at the moment but I can see him growing out of it soon. Are there any recommendations for a bedside cot for babies in that between stage? The cot in his bedroom is suitable for up to a two year old so it would be a bit big and cumbersome to bring into the bedroom.

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Gmmllw · 30/05/2021 11:48

@MyDcAreMarvel

The “my baby was fine posters” would you put your child on a car with no seat belt/car seat? Because the chances are they will never be needed and your child will be absolutely fine. The reason to sleep with your baby until six months isn’t because the chance of an issue is high - it’s not, it’s because the consequences could be catastrophic.
It's a hard pill to swallow but I agree with you.
Liverbird77 · 30/05/2021 18:34

@MyDcAreMarvel it's not a like for like analogy. If the ABCs of safe sleep are followed, along with other precautions e.g. using a pacifier that isn't attached to the infant and putting the cot away from furniture and windows then it is fine.

MyDcAreMarvel · 30/05/2021 20:39

@Liverbird77 the lullaby trust would disagree with you.

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lavenderandwisteria · 30/05/2021 20:44

I must admit I’m not sure ds would ever sleep if I followed the lullaby trust to the letter. I do follow most of it but not all.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 30/05/2021 23:48

Think dd was about 14w

Outgrew Moses basket and not enough room in our room
For cot

Used an angel in our room and then hers - still use one now at 4

Slept 7-11 df then 11-7 then did 7-7 in own room

Often parents disturb babies when on same room

Definately · 31/05/2021 00:00

@lavenderandwisteria

Well, we tried it and it didn’t really work!

He still fits into his next to me crib at the moment but I can see him growing out of it soon. Are there any recommendations for a bedside cot for babies in that between stage? The cot in his bedroom is suitable for up to a two year old so it would be a bit big and cumbersome to bring into the bedroom.

You get a bigger next to me now that lasts for longer and turns into a floor bed when they're toddlers. Pricey though.
Liverbird77 · 31/05/2021 19:35

@MyDcAreMarvel fair enough, but then they also advocate bed-sharing.
I did room share (never bed shared) with my children until 6 months with my first and about eight months with my second. It's just a fact though, that if you follow all the safe sleep guidance I mentioned above, then the risk of SIDS is extremely tiny.

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