To think this isn't a mate?

[ivfbabymomma1]

Basically a last week it was my birthday (mid week birthday, no milestone etc) and my friend text me saying happy birthday and what was I doing for it that evening. I replied saying nothing much, DH is away with business so I'll just celebrate it at the weekend. She then replied saying why dont I ask my mum to watch DS & well go for an early tea as I was on my own. (Which didn't bother me in the slightest) but I said that would be nice and off we went. She then turned up with a really expensive gift for me which was totally unexpected.
Mid meal she asked me to look at a whatsapp conversation with her mate and scrolled through it whilst showing me the phone screen. She then awkwardly scrolled too far and I saw that she had seen screenshotted a photo of me and sent it to her friend, she was scrolled but I saw nasty words briefly but I pretended I didn't see it as it was mid meal and I just wanted to get through it. But what I don't get is why is she doing this whilst initiating plans etc with me?! And buying me gifts!!! I mean I get it might have been harmless banter or whatever but should I say something?

So she’s been nasty about you then what? Felt guilty and bought you an OTT present? I’d be calling her out on the message you saw.

I wouldn't bother, I would just pull away from her to be honest. If she asks why, then tell her.
Sorry OP that's really nasty of her.

Well yeah that's potentially exactly what she was doing! I didn't see what she said properly but it was something to do with slagging off the way I look? (I think)

Urgh so Two-faced.

But why did she ask you to look at this convo with her mate in the first place ? Surely she'd have realised before that there was potential you'd see what had been said

id have a face to face convo with her maybe facetime saying you saw the texts - and see what she says
it will be some bullshit excuse
keep your dignity - pull away, sever contact knowing that you called her out .
ill be honest with you though, an extremely close fiend of mine treated me rather cuntishly and i sent her a text! i told her why and then blocked her and havent spoken since - it was coming though

Her friend had just had a baby so she was showing me photos, maybe she wanted me to see it or maybe she forget they were there. (We had had a few cocktails by this point)

Was she bitching about the other friend when she was showing you the WhatsApp conversation?

No she was showing me photos of her friends baby that her friend had sent her. I don't know this other friend which is why it's even stranger she's showing her friend photos of me!? Why would she care about a a random girl she doesn't know (me)

What nasty words?

When I got home I was kicking myself for not saying is that a photo of me? I'm a wimp!!

That's strange you don't even know the other friend. I'd straight up ask her personally, why have you sent my picture to a random person ?

I saw the word awful and some laughing emojis

@ivfbabymomma1

I saw the word awful and some laughing emojis

ouch

Ergh that's so horrible, I hope you're ok. I hope she feels really bad!!

I definitely would say something to her. I could never move past it, it will always be on my mind and it would eat me up. For my own sake, I would say something.

We you have to ask her, or you will never know.. what’s app her and ask for a screen shot of the
Conversation.

Thank you for all your advice. It's definitely playing on my mind as this happened last week. I think I might have to say something and then back off (the guilt gift is still in the bag and will remain there until she wants it back lol)

I would ask and literally say what you saw as you have written here.

It is likely she is a bad friend.

But it could somehow weirdly not be something mean (for example i got a horrific bag as an xmas gift (comedically bad) I sent a snap of me with it to my bff. my friend fwds it to her sis who she already told about the bag saying "look this is it isnt it awful? 😂😂😂)

if you don't ask you'll be losing potentially a good friend and be doubting yourself.

Did you say anything to your friend?

I would have to say something.