To ask if you do this?

[LemonSherbetFancies]

Argue or reprimand your husband in front of friends or visitors to the home?
I went to a friend's earlier and she asked her partner if he had spoken with me about an event we are all attending. He did not answer quickly enough and she spoke to him again in an exasperated fashion repeating the question. She then reprimanded him again and said he was being difficult.
When he asked a question she snapped at him that she had already told me that.
I find it awkward. If I had an issue with my partner I would not express it in front of friends or visitors to the home. It also made my friend look unkind and disrespectful. Aibu ?

She was disrespectful towards her husband and inconsiderate to you by making you feel uncomfortable in her home.

Humiliating anyone in front of others is abusive.

Have you ever pointed this out to her?

DH worked with a couple that I ended up flatly refusing to sit anywhere near them, because they'd just tear little nasty bits off each other, the whole time, at any work function.

It's just ugly. And embarrassing.

YANBU

In my friendship group it's normal to say "oh, DW/ DH" and laugh, gentle poke in the arm sort of thing but NEVER an actual scolding. I would think that if a person is so angry with their spouse in public then they would be horrendous behind closed doors.

I love making fun of my DH, in private or public, because he hams it up and makes fun of me in response but it's never mean or hitting our sensitive spots.

Oh God...it is grim isn't it? It is manipulative and deeply rude.

I would not , it sounds like she was trying to embarrass him or belittle him into giving the answer she wants rather than his truthful reply

@LemonSherbetFancies

My husband would go batshit if I humiliated him in front of others, and I would if HE did it. We have had our ups and downs over the years, (more ups!) but none of us has ever done this. Ever.

As a pp said, it's abusive

Your "friend" is horrible, and I would tell her that humiliating her husband in front of you is not on.

Was he all out not answering her, or was he engaged in other conversation?

God what awful behaviour from your friend. If she’s prepared to speak to him in that manner in public god knows what her poor husband is being subjected to in private.

That's a horrible way to treat someone.

Did he eat toast upstairs?

She speaks to him as though she is an exasperated parent and he is a child. Happened a good few times now and I am surprised he puts up with it. Lovely guy as well.