DD and DS and me have just come out of isolation after having covid. My DS 10 is supposed to be going to his dads tomorrow. But his dad won't take him unless we all provide written proof of a negative civid test.
I've been advised by my GP and test and trace NOT to do a covid test within 90 days as particles can still show as a positive test even when not contagious. I have been isolating with both kids for over a month now. That's after doing all of last years lock down on my own with no assistance from their dad; working, recuperating from a brain bleed and schooling. He didn't see DS for nearly 4 months in the first lock down as he said it was too dangerous. I respected his choice as fear isn't rational.
However his fear is directly effecting our lives now.
I have given him the guidelines resulting in him ignoring them and accusing me and DS of not supporting the fight against covid. Its pure gaslighting. Its clear he is terrified of catching the virus.
My DS is now concerned (as am I) that he will take him to the car (staying 6 ft away) and do a lateral flow test. If its positive he won't take him. Aside from the upset that will cause my son he is pretty enough to register the result and we'd have to isolate again with him for 10 days. We have plans. A new puppy to collect. Family to see. My dad has had a op and my grandad has been diagnosed with late stage alzeimers and we've not been able to see either for over a month.
I'm also concerned if he takes him home to do a PCR test that could come back positive my DS will have to stay longer than planned and miss collecting the dog and seing family.
We do not communicate directly. It goes through a third party, long story. He's refusing to engage with the third party and won't respond when asked of he is still planning to test. He won't even confirm pick up time.
If he doesn't engage by tomorrow AIBU to say DS isn't going?