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AIBU?

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To be irrationally annoyed with people who don’t put their arms... through their sleeves?

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AngeloMysterioso · 28/05/2021 06:48

Aaarggh it just does my head in!

Yesterday a woman I follow on Instagram attended a very important, very formal event and posted a bunch of photos. In every single picture, including the official portrait, she has her coat over her shoulders, with her forearms and handbag peeking out from underneath and her sleeves just hanging pointlessly by her sides.
I get that she’s aiming for some sort of sophisticated Jackie O vibe but I just find it so try-hard and ridiculous... I mean seriously, even in the official photograph? None of the other women are even wearing coats and she can’t even put hers on properly!

What are these people afraid will happen if they just put their f*king arms through their f*king sleeves?!

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vodkaredbullgirl · 28/05/2021 10:12

Who???

WhatsGoingOnHereThen · 28/05/2021 10:15

I don't know who or what the OP is talking about but on Selling Sunset (Netflix show) Christine has taken to wearing a jacket on one shoulder (no arms in it, just hooked on one shoulder) over skintight slinky dresses/outfits. I find it highly distracting and I don't understand how it's not falling to the floor.

Mrsjayy · 28/05/2021 10:15

What a pasting you are getting Op just for being midly irritated about a coat, btw I agree with you I saw a TV presenter who had the same thing jacket over her shoulders thought it looked daft but perhaps that's just my jealousy coming out

eddiemairswife · 28/05/2021 10:48

Not all models wear clothes; some model in the nude.

Ginevere · 28/05/2021 11:36

I do this allll the time!

I have a few smart tailored coats, and when I get in a taxi I don’t want to be sitting wearing them in the car, so I throw them over my shoulders, then shrug them off in the car, then back on to go on the restaurant etc. I don’t do it when wearing a slouchy/puffy jacket, only the smart woollen ones, and honestly I’ve always felt a bit lazy/slovenly when I do it, as it feels like I’ve not dressed properly, so the idea that people do it at a formal event to look smart has intrigued me! I am now googling shoulder robing!

3scape · 28/05/2021 11:39

Comment that you love the cape/ poncho.

It's not a good look, it screams 5 year old at the school gate at home time.

Puntastic · 28/05/2021 11:47

@3scape

Comment that you love the cape/ poncho. It's not a good look, it screams 5 year old at the school gate at home time.

No, that'd be hood on head but no arms in sleeves.

I don't really have an opinion about shoulder robing. I suppose it's better than tying the arms around your waist, and much better than slinging it over your back and holding it there with the fingers of one hand like a preppy young man at a country club. Not quite as good as leaving the unwanted jacket checked in at reception though.

ViciousJackdaw · 28/05/2021 12:40

Does your disdain extend to those who are unable to get their arms into their sleeves? I've got rheumatoid arthritis and some days, I'm as stiff as a board. Meaning I can't get my coat on without help. Am I bollocks staying in if DH isn't at home to help me put it on, I'll just do what I can with it.

I had no idea it was so upsetting to others.

ShrikeAttack · 28/05/2021 12:47

YABVU, my sister and I are life-long shoulder-robers and love nothing more than prancing around with our coats half on!

SirenSays · 28/05/2021 13:07

I'm irrationally annoyed you said all modelling involves is being naturally beautiful and wearing clothes. I'd love to see your attempt at it.
Smells like jealousy to me.

Mamette · 28/05/2021 13:12

My grandmother always had her coats and jackets and this so I have always assumed it is a legitimate way of wearing things.

Although she did have rheumatoid arthritis so maybe it was because of that 🤔

Anyway, she was very glamorous so yabu.

thedogtookit · 28/05/2021 13:32

I looked up the hashtag shoulderrobing on Instagram and it's quite funny. Lots of people posting how stupid it is
Right up your alley

CatsPyjama · 28/05/2021 13:40

How does it not fall off? Maybe I have weird shoulders.

Wellpark · 28/05/2021 14:06

I think it looks bonkers so you are not being unreasonable to scoff at it.
I scoff at people (Kardashians ) who wear their jackets or coats at half mast. The sleeves don't make it up the arms past the elbows. Looks ludicrous.

newnortherner111 · 28/05/2021 14:12

My sympathy ended with the words 'follow on Instagram'. Who fail to act promptly when people are harassed or subject to hate such as racism.

An0n0n0n · 28/05/2021 14:18

You sound so jealous.

You like her enough to follow her but not enough to let something so small pass you by?

You actually came onto anotjer forum to bash her and say her talents are being natually beautiful and wearing clothes and that she was only there because of whi she is married to having a father who jas achieved something?

Fucking hell.

Cant imagine you'd make a similar comment about Obama accompanying Michelle...

Mochudubh · 28/05/2021 15:54

@3scape

Comment that you love the cape/ poncho. It's not a good look, it screams 5 year old at the school gate at home time.

Is it just me that's now got a picture of Mr Poppy from the Nativity films in my head?

Gwenhwyfar · 28/05/2021 16:00

I agree with you.
Only exception is when it's sometimes not quite cold enough for coat on properly, but not quite warm enough for not having it. It kind of makes sense as a type of shield if you're somewhere where the only way you can go to the pub these days is to sit outside.

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AngeloMysterioso · 28/05/2021 16:33

@An0n0n0n

You sound so jealous.

You like her enough to follow her but not enough to let something so small pass you by?

Fucking hell.

Cant imagine you'd make a similar comment about Obama accompanying Michelle...

Jeez and I thought I was irrationally annoyed...

No I did not come onto this forum to “bash” her. And indeed I have not “bashed” her... it’s not even about her in particular, the thread is about people who don’t put their arms through their sleeves because they somehow think it looks stylish, of whom she is just the latest offender whose picture I happened to see yesterday.

I’m unaware as to how modelling is much more complex than wearing clothes and looking good in them... I guess posing can be tricky if they want you in a weird shape? It’s hard to walk up and down a runway in heels sometimes? All that keeping still while people do your hair and make up? I dunno...

Yes, she was absolutely only there because the event was centred around her fiancé’s father. Her being there would have been bewilderingly random otherwise...

And yeah, if Michelle Obama did it, much as I love her, I would think she looked daft.

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skybluee · 28/05/2021 16:50

Who cares...?

saynotofondant · 28/05/2021 20:57

I know menopausal women who do this because they say it helps them regulate their temperature more easily.

Holly60 · 28/05/2021 21:10

You sound bitchy, petty and jealous to be honest. Why don’t you just ‘do you’ as my granddaughters say

Gwenhwyfar · 28/05/2021 22:30

@Holly60

You sound bitchy, petty and jealous to be honest. Why don’t you just ‘do you’ as my granddaughters say

I don't really understand people who think someone saying they don't like a particular style is 'bitchy' or 'petty', let alone jealous. It's a huge overreaction. There are loads of styles I don't like. I'm obviously not jealous of the people sporting those styles because I don't think it looks good anyway. It's also not bitchy or petty. It's not a personal insult.

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