I don't know if I'm just weird but...

[louisiannah]

Hello,

Bit of a strange and kind of lighthearted post but anyway..
I am SO sensitive to sound to the point it angers me. Examples of this: If the TV is too loud of an evening (it will be on a low volume and I can't deal with it even though it's really not high to anyone else), sometimes the fridge freezer will make noises that annoy me, the bathroom extractor fan noise irritates the life out of me. I don't really know how to describe it to be honest but other examples are people breathing too loudly by me, eating loudly, loads of things. Am I the only one? It honestly is really effecting my daily life! I don't know what to do about it because i feel like I'm just quite clearly very sensitive to literally ANY noise whatsoever and it angers me massively. Going into bury places and there's loads of noise makes me want to run home is another example. I don't want to go the doctors in fear of him laughing at me and telling me to in polite words to get over myself!

Op, try thunderstorm sounds. Get an Alexa and she can play them for you. It helps my daughter massively, and she has misophonia. It's worth a try.

One thing that really helps me is listening to whale music on Spotify. Sounds weird but it's the one thing that I can listen to with headphones on when I feel really on edge and it calms me right down

One of Dh’s chargers makes a really annoying hum as does the powerline outside my house.

Kids screeching and screaming drives me crazy. Playing sounds are fine but screaming should only be for when bones are though flesh.
My oldest is really sensitive to sound as well so I think it’s genetic to an extent. (My mum is as well)

I think sound pollution should be dealt with much better than what it is.
As it’s such a constant irritant that can be so overwhelming.

The TV is the worst! Especially when I'm trying to sleep and my OH is watching the TV in bed. He ends up saying "it's literally on volume 5 I cannot lower it anymore" and it still seems soooo loud. Drives me insane

Why is the selfish arse watching tv in bed while you are trying to sleep? Tell him to fuck off downstairs or wear headphones. The bloody light off the tv would drive me insane, never mind the noise.

I can't bear repetitive noise. No ticking clocks in my house. Things like rain causing a drip on the windowsill every 5 seconds. My brain focuses on it and it might as well be someone banging a drum next to my head.

Yes. Noise reduces me to tears often. I can't stand it, especially quite quiet but continuous sounds which chip away at me - like dripping taps, a windchime next door, or the fridge hum. Noise cancelling headphones help a lot.

Dripping or ticking clocks drive me mad
In my job a lot of people eat down the phone when they're calling and I very nearly hung up on someone eating cereal because the crunching and slurping sent me into a white hot rage
(Please don't eat down the phone if you're ringing a business!)

Yes I have this. Babies crying and the noise of crowds are the worst triggers for me

@SpacePotato

The TV is the worst! Especially when I'm trying to sleep and my OH is watching the TV in bed. He ends up saying "it's literally on volume 5 I cannot lower it anymore" and it still seems soooo loud. Drives me insane

Why is the selfish arse watching tv in bed while you are trying to sleep? Tell him to fuck off downstairs or wear headphones. The bloody light off the tv would drive me insane, never mind the noise.

I can't bear repetitive noise. No ticking clocks in my house. Things like rain causing a drip on the windowsill every 5 seconds. My brain focuses on it and it might as well be someone banging a drum next to my head.

I have told him how much it annoys me but I also feel guilty because it's really not loud to him and I can still hear the TV from the living room.. we live in a flatit's quite a big flat but still can hear the TV. I do wish he would go asleep earlier though

I do agree with repetitive noises that PP are mentioning. It drives me mad. I can feel the rage being built up inside of me and I feel like I'm going to explode especially noises of the fan if the fans on in the room or something!

I think I have this too!
I'm v sensitive to noise, especially music constantly playing in the background. After a v short while it really grates on my nerves & I feel my patience disappearing.
I have a teen dc & car journeys are hell as they love to play music- dh loves listening to it with them. I find after about 3 songs I'm clenching my teeth & getting cranky

I can't stand ANY noise or light when I'm trying to sleep. I have to physically cover the little red light on the tv every night

If there's a chink in the curtains (after dh closes them usually!) I have to get up & fix it before I can relax & sleep

I can't stand the hum of things like fluorescent lights- I had an office where it was so grating I sat in semi darkness rather than have it on. It gave me a headache & I literally couldn't concentrate

I find the only thing I can have on & never really gets on my nerves is a classical music radio station. It's calming to me .

My family don't understand me at all when it comes to noise!

In our old house the neighbours fitted a new kitchen and changed the layout so their fridge freezer was then against the shared wall. The bastard thing vibrated through our entire house.

@UnreasonablyPissedOff

I think I have this too! I'm v sensitive to noise, especially music constantly playing in the background. After a v short while it really grates on my nerves & I feel my patience disappearing. I have a teen dc & car journeys are hell as they love to play music- dh loves listening to it with them. I find after about 3 songs I'm clenching my teeth & getting cranky

I can't stand ANY noise or light when I'm trying to sleep. I have to physically cover the little red light on the tv every night

If there's a chink in the curtains (after dh closes them usually!) I have to get up & fix it before I can relax & sleep

I can't stand the hum of things like fluorescent lights- I had an office where it was so grating I sat in semi darkness rather than have it on. It gave me a headache & I literally couldn't concentrate

I find the only thing I can have on & never really gets on my nerves is a classical music radio station. It's calming to me .

My family don't understand me at all when it comes to noise!

@UnreasonablyPissedOff I completely understand EVERYTHING you've just said! How do other people deal with those things without actually wanting to kill someone?! I honestly don't understand how it doesn't anger other people

@SpacePotato

In our old house the neighbours fitted a new kitchen and changed the layout so their fridge freezer was then against the shared wall. The bastard thing vibrated through our entire house.

@SpacePotato I have no idea what I'd do in that situation apart from have a completely breakdown and want to move house/ kill the neighbours

Noise cancelling headphones? I worked with a deaf guy who used to turn his hearing aid off if he needed to concentrate!

@Royalbloo

Noise cancelling headphones? I worked with a deaf guy who used to turn his hearing aid off if he needed to concentrate!

@Royalbloo I have tried a few and they don't seem to workthe only ones I haven't tried now would be massive block type things like gamer style headphones that I just can't picture helping me sleep, I sleep on my side and it would hurt my head

I can't stand ANY noise or light when I'm trying to sleep. I have to physically cover the little red light on the tv every night

I have to take fabric dressing strips whenever I go to a hotel as they generally have so many bloody sharp little lights in the room that I can still see through my closed eyelids. The last one I stayed in had three - TV, smoke detector (flashing red every 5 secs) and sprinkler system thing (flashing bright green every 10 secs). Plasters over them all.

I’ve been like this for years - eating noises, tv’s in other rooms, random small noises that I’ve noticed and then can’t un-notice etc. It’s knots my stomach in irritation and makes me unreasonably furious.

I’ve not found a ‘cure’ but have found that if I can block a noise with my own noise it helps somewhat. I’ve not found a good strategy for things like crowds though unfortunately.

My theory is that if your brain is wired to pay attention to your surroundings it’s annoyed by constantly being poked for attention, it simply can’t compute when you tell it doesn’t matter. Crowds are hard work because it can’t focus on what it should and shouldn’t be listening to and it’s overwhelming trying to sort it out.

I’ve found it worse since having dc because you’re naturally on higher alert listening and watching for their safety/needs, I can’t seem to switch it off at all.

I have tried ear plugs before and found them not to work, mainly the orange travel ones and silicone putty ones that fell out and stuck in my hair - ick! Anyway we've been having trouble with a cockerel crowing at 5am not to mention OH breathing in my direction and I got some Boots foam earplugs for a couple of quid and they've actually really helped. You might have already tried them though, but if not worth a shot.

Regardless of anything else the TV on in your bedroom when you are trying to sleep is really unfair.

I don't have misophonia in any way but I wouldn't tolerate a TV being on on any volume in my bedroom if I was trying to sleep. Nor would I have it on if DH was trying to sleep. It's completely unreasonable.

@Cornettoninja

I’ve been like this for years - eating noises, tv’s in other rooms, random small noises that I’ve noticed and then can’t un-notice etc. It’s knots my stomach in irritation and makes me unreasonably furious.

I’ve not found a ‘cure’ but have found that if I can block a noise with my own noise it helps somewhat. I’ve not found a good strategy for things like crowds though unfortunately.

My theory is that if your brain is wired to pay attention to your surroundings it’s annoyed by constantly being poked for attention, it simply can’t compute when you tell it doesn’t matter. Crowds are hard work because it can’t focus on what it should and shouldn’t be listening to and it’s overwhelming trying to sort it out.

I’ve found it worse since having dc because you’re naturally on higher alert listening and watching for their safety/needs, I can’t seem to switch it off at all.

@Cornettoninja yes, I have noticed massively how badly it has effected me since having my DD. I could sleep through any noise whatsoever before I had DD but because I'm on such a high alert incase she wakes up in the night and I have to listen out for her.. I'm also listening out for any tiny little noises as well. I am the same with the fact that when I've noticed a noise that is it then and I can't not hear it then. Crowds make me to dizzy because I just don't know how to deal with the busyness of the noise!

@Tal45 thank you! I will try them! I don't think I've had any from boots so it's worth a try isn't it

@DappledThings I do hate it when he has the TV on. But hate him staying up late in another room because I like to go to bed together so I'm unsure if I'm the problem there because he would sit in another room

But you are not going to bed together! You are going to bed and he's watching TV.