To ask for a kick up the bum

[Fattyfatfats]

I'm in a rut, I'm overweight by 3 and a half stone which puts me at obese on the bmi chart, I think nothing of eating 4 bars of chocolate and sweets cakes etc crisps in a day, I eat chocolate for breakfast and throughout the day I also eat probably 1000 if not more calories than I need, what am I potentially doing to myself ? I need shocking into doing something about it!

I mean health wise

If you can afford it or find something low cost or free, I think a structured program with others might work much better for you than just being out there on your own with it.

What do you mean ? @BigHeadBertha slimming world gym etc ? Xx

Well done recognising that there is an issue.
Why? That should begin to help you look at solutions.
Boredom? Something to do with your hands while you watch tv or sort socks?
Emotional eating?
Availability compared to a healthy snack? Why are you buying chocolate- do you need to buy at all or as much (even if it is meant for others such as children do they need as much)
Any medical causes (including eating disorders)?
Has something changed or has this been a gradual thing?

@Blowingagale defo comfort eating, relationship problems not that that's an excuse, i buy the food chocolate etc and keep promising myself I'll be better tomorrow I'll work at it tomorrow but 2-3 years down the line I'm still making same excuses, I'm wondering what I'm doing to my body long term as this can't go on but I can't seem to bloody stop xx

Tomorrow never comes, because it's an addiction. Treat it like a drug addict would treat drugs and you might have more success.

Understand how the brain reacts to addiction, once you start to understand it , you can work towards beating it.

@Indoctro I don't understand what you mean? Xx

I found a really gradual reduction worked for me. Cutting down slowly is more sustainable, especially if you do it at the same time as gradually increasing exercise. Even a 20 minute walk a day will make a difference.

I don't know what you have over there, but here in the US, we have Overeaters Anonymous (free), Weight Watchers (costs) and so on.

You get all sorts of help, such as special meal plans, knowledge and advice, weekly weigh-ins and new friends who are also trying to lose weight. I think what you're doing isn't working very well for you so maybe you'd do better (and be happier) with a group thing. If Covid is still high in your area, it might meet online or outside for now. Just a thought.

[quote Fattyfatfats]@Indoctro I don't understand what you mean? Xx[/quote]
I mean people over eat because they have a addiction to food. The brain once addicted to something is very hard to stop. You need to understand how it works and how to beat it. It's absolutely nothing to do with willpower

Lots of information on addiction and food , start researching that rather than diets and you might find you are much more successful at weight loss.

I'm the same. I think I am in the habit of getting something out of the cupboard every time I go in the kitchen, regardless of whether I am hungry or have just wandered in to put something away. The thing I found has helped is to get a pint of squash each time instead. Bit of a lame tip, but it (sometimes) helps me.

Good luck :)

You might want to partly address through dealing with the emotions - I’m not an expert maybe see gp/practice nurse about whether cbt might help.
Even if you don’t have diabetes I think their information and ideas might helpful
www.diabetes.org.uk/guide-to-diabetes/enjoy-food/eating-with-diabetes/food-psychology/emotional-eating-and-feasting

If you think that you may need help from someone out side maybe Weightwatchers or slimming world or there are online free groups, there are also a number of threads on MN.

Have a look at nhs website or contact your gp.

Can you make one change, make it a habit, then move on to another change? For example to go for a 30 minute walk every day. Then when that's ingrained, aim for a healthy breakfast.
I am currently similarly overweight, and I find if I think too much about the mountain I need to climb, it feels insurmountable so small steps in the right direction work for me.
Also, I find doing something like 16:8 (or even 14:10 which I find more realistic due to when I need to eat meals at the mo) really helps with mindless eating which I'm guilty of. But that might not be for you!