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Noisy neighbour dilemma!

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CLADS89 · 27/05/2021 20:33

Hi!
So our neighbour opposite is the perfect neighbour, no loud parties, always so friendly and speaks to us, brings our children sweets on Christmas and Easter etc.. BUT, the past few months he’s been out in his garage of an evening (his garage is really close to our house), he’s building something and he works during the day most days so I totally get that evenings are the only time he can get out there, BUT, he’s drilling/hammering/sawing until 9:30 some nights! We have 3 young children who are struggling to sleep through the noise sometimes, the weather has been warmer and we can’t have the window open in their room until he’s gone in. I’m not sure if I should just leave it, put up with it and hope he finishes building soon or should I speak to him? I really don’t want to upset him or rock the boat! I’m laid in my children’s room now with them trying to help the youngest fall asleep and it really is so loud.
If I should speak to him, please give me ideas of how to word it?
Thank you so much in advance for your help and advice!

YABU = let him carry on, 9:30 is still early and he’s an otherwise perfect neighbor!
YANBU = have a word with him nicely to try and come to a compramise!

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19lottie82 · 27/05/2021 21:04

930 isn’t that late, and it doesn’t sound like it’s going to go on forever. I’d leave it.

pilates · 27/05/2021 21:08

I think it’s late to be doing that sort of work. It’s about having consideration for your neighbours knowing you have young children and they will be going to sleep early.

Overoptimistix · 27/05/2021 21:23

Does he have children? We used to live in a terraced house and occasionally our very nice single male neighbour would have friends come to stay - it always ended up in karaoke! But we had young children so it never bothered us, I thought he probably got the worse end of things as there was daily noise (although we tried to be quiet!) so it was fair enough to have a bit of occasional disturbance from him.

It doesn't sound like your neighbour will be doing that long term and 9.30 really isn't that late, especially in the summer.

1n5piration · 27/05/2021 21:23

Sorry, but I think you're being a bit precious. Overall, your Dc have probably made more noise than he is. If he's building something, then it will stop once he's built it. He is deliberately stopping at 930 every night rather than 11.
Open the window before they go to bed, close it when they do and then open it when he's stopped.
You'll do yourself no favours either making a fuss or by letting your DC think they can't sleep if there's noise going on outside. What will happen if they end up living in a city centre/ near trains, pubs etc or you go on holiday and stay in a hotel with some rowdy guests? Be matter of fact, put some music on, tell them to imagine it's a rocket taking them on an adventure in their dreams.

CLADS89 · 27/05/2021 21:37

Thank you so much for the replies everyone, I really appreciate your advice! I will definitely leave it, it won’t be forever and he’s too nice to rock the boat! Thank you again :-)

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