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To think he is trying to make me jealous

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Starbar7 · 27/05/2021 13:10

Have you ever had someone come into your life and they just feel like a magnet?

For 8 months me and an older guy have had a slow build up relationship. I have children and he's 2 and half years out of a long term relationship.

We started just chatting at a friend's last year. We swapped numbers. Started texting. Calling. Met up.

We said we wanted to build a future and saw ourselves in each other's lives. Seemed on the same path.

We ended up having an argument in march. I felt he wasn't being as honest with me as I originally thought. He seemed a little stuck in the past. He's a natural flirt anyway which I'm not keen on. We seperated and it wasn't a good ending. I was sad for ages.

We had a fair few weeks apart and breathed! I never stopped missing him or loving him. He called me eventually on the 15th may. He said he wanted to see how I was. Then we agreed to meet up Saturday. We had a walk and a really nice talk. All good. But he keeps talking about his ex and this morning was telling me on his teabreak about how amazing a female is who's gone working on the site he's building on. This morning I told him something funny about my friend leaving a screw driver on her roof and driving off. Then he goes back down memory lane about his ex driving off with the food for a party on the roof. That's the 2nd time this week he's felt the need to bring het into our conversation. He used to call her my ex. But now he calls her by her last name to me. As that was what he called her in the relationship. They still talk all the time too! I think she maybe isn't over him. But not sure!

Probably childish but he did not like my new profile photo this week but he used to always like them. He has liked other people's photos this week though.

He will often say he's had women coming onto him.

Is this him just showing off and feeling insecure.

Or is he wanting to bother me?

Sometimes I think how can someone be so into you and at the same time make you feel so confused?

OP posts:
buzzandwoodyallday · 27/05/2021 13:16

He's just not that into you. Cut your losses. He just wants you to want him. There is no future in this "relationship" for you.

Babbly · 27/05/2021 13:16

So, you broke up because he wasn't be honest with you and, now he's being more open with you, you don't like it because he talks about his ex? I don't think that if he were trying to make you jealous he would go about it by using his ex's name - you know her name so it'd be weird to keep saying "my ex".

Curatingchaos · 27/05/2021 13:18

Sounds like a Dick op.
Why do you chase someone who only gives you crumbs?
With kindness, perhaps invest in a little therapy to assess why your standards are so low before you look for another partner.

Shoxfordian · 27/05/2021 13:52

Block and delete
He’s wasting your time

Bigbubbles100 · 27/05/2021 22:18

Most men aren't stupid. He knows mentioning an ex will annoy you. He doesn't sound very nice. I think you should cool it off. They don't seem like they are over.

DrManhattan · 27/05/2021 23:16

Bin.him

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