To cancel booking

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Friend and I arranged to go for brunch at this expensive restaurant an hour away by train. I made the booking a month ago we’ve spoken since about the weather and what was she planning on wearing since and some other news on Friday I text her asking if she wanted to do anything in the area after brunch as I had a few places I wanted to visit in the area. I then on Monday text her regarding train times as it’s cheaper if we book now. I’ve had no reply to any of these texts. I’ve just had a reminder email about my booking stating that if we cancel we will be charged 20 quid each if we cancel. She has form for being flaky or canceling last minute. Aibu to cancel the booking now before the charge and then say to her if she messages me something like as you didn’t get back to me about the brunch I canceled otherwise it would of been a 40 pound charge I’m happy to meet in our local town and grab lunch etc instead.

I would cancel. You already know what she's like, don't make the same mistake again.

cancel now

Call her

You're being perfectly reasonable here

I think I'd ring her. If she doesn't answer leave a voicemail explaining that you need to cancel or face the charge so she needs to confirm with you by a fixed time or you will cancel. I wouldn't just leave it as she may just not have had time to get back to your text.

Text her you will cancel at x time.

Yup cancel

I would cancel too.

Ring her! Then you’ll get an answer. And as a PP said, if she doesn’t answer, you can leave a message warning her that you’re going to cancel if you don’t hear back from her by X time.

Yes, I’d cancel.

Cancel! Has she read the messages?

Cancel… don’t tell her yet.

I think you should cancel. You aren't saying you don't want to see her, just making it a more local thing.

Yep, totally.

I thought this was going to be about our wonderful government's clear as mud covid guidance.

I was going to say don't cancel

Try calling her?

If you did book it after all, and she cancelled, would there be anyone that could fill in at short notice?

These people can really grate as you end up missing out on so much due to their last minute cancelling - both from a financial perspective and an actual experience. Nothing worse than been dropped - even when's just a night out - because a better offer came along, and you're all dressed up with no place to go...

It seems a shame to cancel completely - it must be quite the brunch if you have to book last month - and I presume its a least a week away. So if you can find someone else to go with rather than cancelling your booking completely --- I wouldn't ever turn down nice food !

Thanks I’m just going to cancel it, she will often flake on the day with some excuse if I don’t cancel now and call her she will probably say she’s up for it and then on the day cancel on me.

I'd phone her in case she's had a horrible accident and that's why she's not answering your messages.

I would have called to check she's OK however you obviously don't want to let yourself in for a cancellation charge and understandably so.

Let her arrange the next meal, so she will bear any cost involved if she cancels.

She’s been on social media so she’s ok it’s canceled now anyway I’m glad i don’t have to deal with the stress of it now