To expect his friend to get on the bloody train!

[milkymill]

Just had a row with dh over this. His friend came up from London yesterday so that they could have a night out together. He is geting the train home from our nearest city. We live on a suberb rail link (20mins directly to city train station), yet dh is insisting on driving him in to the city this morning!
It will take him 30mins each way, and we have very little petrol left in the tank, and zero cash to replace it this month. Dh reckons it's the least he can do, as friend payed for taxi home last night. It will cost him virtually nothing to get on the train, and take less time though ffs!!! I'm sure his friend isn't bothered in the slightest. [angry. I wouldn't usually care but, we have very little money left, and what is left we need for food, not to replace petrol (need to get to college).

Sorry about terrible spelling,I am rushing.

Well if I went to sere a friend on the train i would expect a lift to the station tbh
If money is so tight why was he going out last night?

Maybe he wants to spend more time with his friend

however, if cash is as tight as you say then YANBU

I have no probs giving him alift to the local station 2 mins away, from there he will be on the train for 20 mins and then directly on to the platform where he gets the next train. It's actually easier and quicker this way!!
Dh has had this well deserved and rare night out for a long time, and it was budgeted for. Thinga are particularly tight at this time of the month though, so every penny counts.

Had this planned for a long time.

but when yuo pointed out to your DH about the money issue what did he say?
if he has planned and budgeted for this night out he sounds a careful sort so maybe he thinks you can stand for him to do this journery?

He said,"If he gets on the train then I'm going to give him £10 towards last nights taxi."
It's just so silly, I know we don't have any spare money after his spends last night. I would certainly 'take a hit' with the petrol money if it was an inconvenience for him to get on the train, but it isn't, it's easier! Just seems so pointless.

My sister visits quite frequently on the trains, and I wouldn't dream of driving he in to the city because there's no time saving or extra convenience to be had by doing so.

i bet he just wants to spend more time with his friend and doesn't want to tell you - so not pointless for your DH

I doubt it. They never spend any time together unless it involves getting hammered. Whenever they visit each other, they always bugger off home mega early .

You ABU. He should have either shared last nights taxi fare or pay him money towards his train fare as he says. You can't leave it up to his friend to subsidise him so that you have money for petrol. It's not his friend's fault that you are short of money. If it's that bad then he should not have organised last night.

YABU his friend paid for a taxi and your DH wants to show a sign of appreciation for that, which may not look logical to you but is his way of saying thanks.

His friend is v. nice, and was generous of him to pay the taxi fare, but imo that'not what it's about. It cost £2 on the local train, and dh asked me to look up train times for him last night, which i did. How is dropping him off compensating him for taxi fare? It's hardly expensive getting the train! Friend was not subsidising our pertol money. Dh should have payed his way out of his drinking money if he felt bad about the taxi, instead of doing this pointless journey with my last bit of petrol.

ConnorTraceptive, yes you are right. I can see that's exactly what dh is doing. I'm just annoyed that a)it doesn't seem like much of a thanks, and b) that it's to the detriment of petrol which I need.