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My Y6 son had his genitals grabbed in school today

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DolphinFC · 25/05/2021 19:22

My y6 son is very quiet and sensitive.

He was mortified and humiliated today when a girl in his class grabbed his genitals in front of other boys.

Should I be very angry or should I put it down to playground games?

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Thatswatshesaid · 25/05/2021 20:27

I would be straight down to the school! Did he tell the teachers?

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 25/05/2021 20:29

100% report.

If this had happened to a girl there would be no question.

Boys are not 2nd class citizens.

I hope your son is ok OP

Flowerlane · 25/05/2021 20:31

Definitely needs reporting!! She is old enough to know what she was doing.

Hope your son is ok.

cpjoli · 25/05/2021 20:32

Report it to the class teacher tomorrow morning. It should be recorded.

TheLoveOfMoney · 25/05/2021 20:33

I think you're probably a bit shocked and confused and not able to process this clearly hence that numbness of not knowing how to process this.

Its very serious, the school should be notified asap and the girl responsible should be dealt with severely. I have a son in Year 6, if he came home and told me this I'd be raging and I'd the assault dealing with the utmost seriousness.

Looubylou · 25/05/2021 20:44

Report and do not let it be minimised. Emphasise your son's distress. If school down play this I would be tempted to ring Children's Services for advice. No reason to think that school won't be great though.

AMillionMilesAway · 25/05/2021 20:48

Absolutely report it.
If it was a boy grabbing a girl, there would be no question. This is no different.

RainbowMum11 · 25/05/2021 21:08

Report it - absolutely. It is not acceptable behaviour, and the girl needs to be told that.
Same as if it were the other way round.

Redwinestillfine · 25/05/2021 21:53

Report, absolutely. Imagine if it was a boy who did this to a girl

converseandjeans · 25/05/2021 22:04

That's horrible - do report it. Just because he's a boy it doesn't mean it's not to be taken seriously. Poor boy.

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DolphinFC · 30/05/2021 09:17

The school did take it seriously.

One question, the phrase they used whr speaking to her was 'inappropriate touching'. Should they have also said that as as adult this could be classed as 'sexual assault'?

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DolphinFC · 30/05/2021 10:40

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SnowdaySewday · 30/05/2021 11:12

@DolphinFC

The school did take it seriously.

One question, the phrase they used whr speaking to her was 'inappropriate touching'. Should they have also said that as as adult this could be classed as 'sexual assault'?

You shouldn’t know what they've said the the girl, only that school has dealt with the situation and how they are going to prevent similar happening to your child again.

SolarDay · 30/05/2021 11:22

Report immediately. That is sexual assault.

So much that goes on in schools goes under the radar and never gets dealt with by the school in accordance with policy and procedure.

When I was 10, I was assaulted and bullied by a boy in my class more than once and excuses were continually made for him because there were marital problems between his parents. No consequences!! To this day I wonder how many people have been damaged by him as a result of effective measures to protect those at the receiving end.

SolarDay · 30/05/2021 11:23

ineffective

Surlyburd · 30/05/2021 11:27

No, it's definitely not just playground games. Should be highlighted to the school as there may be safeguarding issues about the girl in question. This also will need to be brought to the attention of the other children that this will be taken seriously.

Crazycakelady17 · 30/05/2021 11:27

I don’t think at 10/11 they needed to say explicitly sexual assault inappropriate touching is fine glad they dealt with it

81Byerley · 30/05/2021 11:36

If this was a girl being grabbed by a boy, it would be taken seriously. This is no different and should also be taken seriously.

Happenchance · 30/05/2021 11:54

@DolphinFC

The school did take it seriously.

One question, the phrase they used whr speaking to her was 'inappropriate touching'. Should they have also said that as as adult this could be classed as 'sexual assault'?

I'd like to think that the staff have been trained about how to speak to children about these types of incidents. I'd also like to think that they used language that would help the girl to confide in them if she herself was being abused.

LaBellina · 30/05/2021 11:58

If it has been the other way around and your DS had been a girl who had been assaulted like this by a boy (yes I think it’s assault, just because they’re both children doesn’t mean it should be minimized) then you probably would have felt less doubt about the right thing to do in this situation and would have reported it to the school. But boys need protection too and because a girl did this to him doesn’t make it right at all! Please report it. They have a duty to investigate this don’t let them tell you otherwise. That he’s a boy and the perpetrator is a girl in this case shouldn’t make a difference.

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DolphinFC · 30/05/2021 12:46

Thank you for your replies.

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