Cheating husband?

[Mamof2g]

So Iv been married for 9 years, and I sometimes check my husbands phone, wrong I know but over the years Iv always found messages to other women, most recently was today 😢 I’m certain he has sent rude pics also, we have 2 children together, I want out of this marriage but feel trapped,

I don't blame you for wanting out: no one should have to tolerate that level of disrespect from a spouse.

What is it that makes you feel trapped specifically? Is it the children? How old are they? Do you work or have any of your own money?

Oh dear op. I can’t imagine how you feel. I think it’s best to start gathering as much info as you can. Take photos of his phone. Make notes etc ... don’t make any rash decisions right now. Get your evidence than plan an exit.

I don't blame you at all.

Think practically. Do you have a mortgage or rent? Whose name is everything in? Do you both work full time? Who does any childcare?

Leg it - if you can?

Yes I would want out too,.

Use this time and get prepared and take copies of important documents and go see a solicitor.

We’ve got a 7 and 5 year old and the thought of having to share them breaks my heart, he works full time, I do part time and I do all the school runs, off in holidays ect, I don’t want to break their hearts, we rent but I could afford it on my own, I guess it’s the thought of doing it all on my own after so many years x

I’m sure it won’t be easy but at least you will be happy.

Yes a divorce could be difficult for your children but so is having a mother who is treated badly by their father. Your heart is important too. There's lots of people on here who grew up in a household where affairs took place and they'll tell you how awful that was. My friend was used as a go between for her mum and her mum's affair partner when she was a child and she still resents her mum for it.

I know I need to be happy too, and in the long run, the children will be happy, I’m going to try get more evidence and go speak to a solicitor, people can be so cruel sometimes, but I need to do this for me and to show my children how women should be treated x

Wise words Mam, good luck

Thanks, apparently it’s fine to do what he has done and it’s all my fault, oh well onwards and upwards for me and my children x