LTB.... this is a phrase that is often said on MN. After a big fight with my OH this weekend I started to think about the realities of us breaking up (we're not btw, it was just a fight) Anyway I realised I can't actually afford to LTB.
Currently work 3 days. I know for a fact my boss would give me full time hours if I wanted them. But even working full time theres no way I could afford full time care for 4 children. I cant even afford child care for the 3 days i work. I've no family to help as they are all busy with their own families and jobs. And I know OH wouldn't be in a position to help either due to his own job.
I would have to quit my job and go on social welfare. I dont want to do this because firstly it would be a massive lifestyle change going from being comfortable to scrapping by. And secondly because quitting my job and being single would be hugely isolating for me. I don't have alot of friends and the ones I have would be working anyway so I'd be spending the majority of my time either with my kids or alone.
AIBU to think that for a large majority of women Leaving The Bastard just isn't that easy?
I've noticed that alot of people on MN have high paying jobs or partners in high paying jobs. Is this why they're so quick to advise LTB? Because money isn't an issue for them.
BTW I'm not talking about women in abusive relationships where they or their kids are in danger. Of course they should LTB. I'm just talking about everyday average relationships that are not going so well.