To feel like becoming obese has ruined my life.

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I know it sounds dramatic but my quality of life is so bad now. I’m really ashamed of what I have done to myself I don’t like socialising or meeting people anymore because I feel so self conscious, hardly any of my clothes fit, and I feel so unhealthy. I can’t even walk long distances without getting completely tired and out of breath.

I gained a huge amount of weight last year, I had a serious (life threatening) health problem which required an operation, and had a horrible episode of depression. I comfort ate and binge ate.

I really want to turn things around but I’m struggling. I’m in therapy for the depression and trying to do all the ‘right’ things, but I have such a large amount of weight to lose, it feels impossible. I also went through a break up during the first lockdown, I would love to meet someone new but my weight is holding me back from this too.

Can anyone advise how I get started, and stop the self defeating attitude?

Do hobbies that use your hands like drawing, knitting etc. Don't worry if you suck at it, if you enjoy it and do it more you'll get better. plus its a nice non-food reward and you get to make something cool to keep.

Be kind to yourself OP, you've been through a lot.

Calorie count through My fitness pal, start doing some walking or even YouTube workout videos (LaThoma Gustin, Dare to be active is a great source of free workouts) but honestly slow and steady wins the race.

Drastic diets that replace meals with shakes etc are great for weight loss, until you start eating again. It's not about dieting, it's about a change in lifestyle. Once your head makes that shift, your body will too.

Totally feel for you !

Can you start keto ? Check out diet doctor or Eric berg for loads of free content !

Second the advice about exercise. If you can carve out 20 or 30 mins a day that would really make a difference.