Doesn't want to go to school

[catwomanhatwoman]

My year 11 dc who finishes school for good on Friday and has finished all his teacher assessments just asked if he has to go to school today. He hates it there and a lot of his friends won't be in, he watched films for most of last week.

I know I should make him go out of principal but would it be so bad if I let him stay at home today and tomorrow?

What principal?

100% let him stay home

It's the right thing to do isn't it?! School hasn't ended yet, he is supposed to be there.

But he has been so miserable there over the last 3 years and it seems like a pointless exercise now.

Just send him. Its only 5 days! Or keep him off for the week completely. Picking and choosing seems a bit off??

Just keep him off for the week then? I can see why you are conflicted. Like you said, seeing as it does not really matter then maybe don't have angst about it and do what you want. I think the answer resides with whether you are a rule stickler or not.

I wouldn't make him go in, what's the point in going if all he's doing is watching films?

I've always been a a stickler for the rules and tried to bring my children up to be principled with a good work ethic and to do the right thing.

Having said that, today and tomorrow do just seem like pointless exercises. I've just told him he can stay at home on the proviso that he starts his CV and I'll help him find a summer job. He will go in at the end of the week for all the leavers activities.

Thanks for your help!

Send him, if the exams hadn't been cancelled they would be still doing them until late June. The teacher assessment process is not complete, just the test element!

Life lesson here. Sometimes as an adukt you have to do what you dont want to. Seecit as the last week of working notice. Do you want your son to be the employee who goes in or the one that thinks nah, fuck it?

He hates it, he won't be missing anything important. Let him stay home.

I’d let him stay home. I say that as a teach who has 2 painful hours of year 11 lessons today.
They’re exhausted and fed up. Their assessments are over and we are just finding them pointless stuff to do while the clock runs down. Total waste of everyone’s time.

Life lesson here. Sometimes as an adukt you have to do what you dont want to. Seecit as the last week of working notice. Do you want your son to be the employee who goes in or the one that thinks nah, fuck it?

Yes that's right, when I was a kid my mum let me stay home from school once and now I'm a terrible employee who always takes time off and can't hold down a job

Honestly, no wonder the British working population has such issues with presenteeism, stress and poor mental health if that sort of stupid attitude is common.

My son is home educated so it's an attitude I have come across frequently!

@CuckooCuckooClock

I’d let him stay home. I say that as a teach who has 2 painful hours of year 11 lessons today. They’re exhausted and fed up. Their assessments are over and we are just finding them pointless stuff to do while the clock runs down. Total waste of everyone’s time.

Teaching staff here as well, and I 100% agree with letting him stay home. It's pointless going in just to watch films. If he's at home doing his CV and job hunting that's a far more productive use of his time.

Having a good work ethic means doing what needs doing, not doing things that serve no purpose.

I can't work out whether he should go in or not, as maybe he will not get a sense of closure, but I don;t think it reflects on his 'work ethic'.

Is he going to be doing any work at all that’ll benefit his future? If not, let him stay home. The couple of weeks after exams and before finishing is the most boring and pointless time to be in school.

Sign him off with stress.

He needs togging- many schools are picking up Y11s to get more evidence as to where they are working at- it isnt all-about internal assessments .if he has underperformed in one of the assessments they will be giving him another chance to prove it this week