Noise and my next door neighbours child

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I don't have children. But I thought mumsnet might be able to give me some advice. My neighbour is a single mum with a 9 yr old child. There were no noise problems until lockdown when he was off school for months. And he started staying up until about 4 am. It has got a bit better since he went back to school. But he is still up playing music , games and TV loud. My bedroom backs on to his and it is really getting me down. I don't sleep very well anyway. But I struggle to get an early night due to the noise. I get on well with the lad and his mum. But I need to say something because I am dreading the summer holidays. I can even hear it when I have headphones in to listen to the radio. Never having been a parent, or being much involved with children, It is hard to know what she can do to keep him quieter. But if she can't then no one can! plus it can't be good for him to be up so late. Any thoughts appreciated.

don't have children. But I thought mumsnet might be able to give me some advice. My neighbour is a single mum with a 9 yr old child. There were no noise problems until lockdown when he was off school for months. And he started staying up until about 4 am. It has got a bit better since he went back to school. But he is still up playing music , games and TV loud. My bedroom backs on to his and it is really getting me down. I don't sleep very well anyway. But I struggle to get an early night due to the noise. I get on well with the lad and his mum. But I need to say something because I am dreading the summer holidays. I can even hear it when I have headphones in to listen to the radio. Never having been a parent, or being much involved with children, It is hard to know what she can do to keep him quieter. But if she can't then no one can! plus it can't be good for him to be up so late. Any thoughts appreciated.

A 9yr old up until 4am??!! Absolute madness, please address this!

Does she know he's up til that late?
She might be able to sleep through his noise.

That is not normal, at all. That she hasn't already put a stop to it means that she either doesn't care if he stays up all night or can't get him to sleep at a reasonable hour on her own, unless it's possible she doesn't realise he's staying up so late.

It probably won't be as easy as speaking to her about the level of noise he makes all night, but you have to at least try.

Very odd. At 9 then 10pm is late but relatively normal. Any later is not normal.

Thanks all for your replies. Yes, she did know he was often up until 4 am over the last break from school. I think she was also up until that time herself. And I am sure she knows he is often listening to stuff and/or playing games until about 11.30 as well. I will take to her. But I know I can't be seen to be criticising her parenting, obviously. This has also coincided with him massive meltdowns on occasion when he shouts are her and tells to get out of his room! I find it quite upsetting because he is a nice kid and they used to get on so well. Anyway I will broach it tactfully and just explain I am finding it difficult. And he needs to turn the noise down.