AIBU to go NC on my grandma

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Ever since my grandad died, my grandma has blatantly favoured my cousins family over mine. Giving them large sums of money and a leg up in life etc etc she gave away my dad's inheritance that my grandad left for him to my cousins. whereas the rest of us are lucky if we get a FB message saying happy birthday two weeks late. There's a lot more to it but to cut it short my parents and siblings gave up trying to have a relationship with her but I made one last attempt and invited her to my wedding. She went to both my cousin's weddings but returned her invite from me literally the day after saying she couldn't come because it was 'impossible' for her to get there. :s it was such a quick response it's clear she didn't even ponder it, and she's not an immobile grandma she's really active and sociable and does loads of stuff. All she'd needed to do would be to book a taxi and turn up. I'm really hurt and to add insult to injury I found out she's going to my other cousin's wedding that's happening after mine and I just think, you know what f* you then. WIBU to give up now? It's been so gut wrenched coming last all the time and it's awful seeing how upset my dad gets being snubbed by his own mother but I kept thinking, no she's my grandma and grandad wouldn't want things to be this way but he's gone now and it seems as far as gran is concerned her love for us went with him :(

I'm so sorry What a shitty situation, and of COURSE YANBU to go NC. She doesn't deserve you, and the fact she is your grandma (ergo probably a 'senior' age,) does not mean she is allowed to treat you like shit, and get away with it

@littlepattilou thank you for saying that, you're so sweet

Is that true about your dad’s inheritance? As in, did your grandfather leave a will? Who was the executor? Why didn’t they ensure that the will was properly executed? If this is true, it’s a crime, as in an actual criminal act, not just annoying family behaviour.

Walk away. She will not give you what you - the loving, caring 'I love all my children/grandchildren' equally isn't going to happen. You sound sound like a caring person - giving her another chance, upset for your Dad. Take the one thing she has given - you will NEVER treat your children or grandchildren the same way and don't look back.

Our of curiosity, are you friendly with the cousins? Have they mentioned a reason for the favouritism?

@HeddaGarbled I don't know the entire story as my parents have tried to keep us out of the arguments as much as possible but from what I can understand grandads will left money for my dad and aunt in the care of my grandma to be given to them after grandma passed away. He wanted to make sure she had access to it in case of an emergency but otherwise it was meant to be passed on. My dad just doesn't have the heart to go after it. And there was definitely no emergency reason for it to be given to my cousins. They've used it to buy houses, go on nice holidays and buy expensive furniture.

@catflapkitkat we used to be quite friendly with them before grandad died but over the years the relationship deteriorated. They became extremely nasty to us all but especially to my youngest sister in particular. And she's the most innocent person in the whole family. Naturally we're all protective of her, so when they started going after her was about the point where we were less careful about keeping the peace.

Sorry OP. She sounds like a nasty lady! So hurtful. I cut off my gran and mum's side of the family almost 15 years ago for similar reasons. Never regretted my decision. Cut all ties and don't look back. Good luck