Have you ever felt shit, in a no return or resolution way and been ok?

[Bananabread122]

That’s it really.

How much is too much to bear?

Relationship (20 year marriage)
Constant pain due to chronic pain disease
SEN children
No let up
No help
Working until I feel like I will drop

Yes, I escaped it by acknowledging that I was not ok and by seeking help.

From a fellow chronic pain sufferer with young children I can relate to how you feel but it doesn't need to stay that way.

Thanks fir the reply, what help did you seek? I have no one to call on , I really don’t know who I could ask for help

Sounds rough OP, but remember nothing ever really stays the same forever.

Is there any specific day to day tasks that are a struggle that maybe MN could help you with resources or advice?

I'm sorry for your suffering, op and I am afraid I don't have a complete answer for you. I suspect there are lots of smaller things that would add up to make a big difference and to that end (and I hope it doesn't sound trite) have you looked at Curable? Its an app that created my medical professionals and scientists that uses the latest research to help people manage chronic pain. Lots of good testimonials, I'm new to it but liking it so far.

Marriage crumbling
Rheumatoid arthritis is going crazy
Feel like a shit mum
Pain is driving me demented
Can’t sleep
Took 20mg of diazepam (saved for emergency) just to get some sleep earlier
I cry too much
Not sure I want to go on really

@Bananabread122

Relationship (20 year marriage) Constant pain due to chronic pain disease SEN children No let up No help Working until I feel like I will drop

Oh OP this really resonates with me You've described my life too basically. It's terrifying every day but we have no other option but to continue. I've not had a break in so long I've forgotten what it feels like to stop, no help either, it's relentlessly hard . I hope you're okay x

Yes. I got private Psychotherapy. Saved my life.
So sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed and in pain.

@Crackbadger

Yes. I got private Psychotherapy. Saved my life. So sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed and in pain.

Would you mind sharing how and what exactly this helped please? I'd love to hear somebody who's progressed like this!

Take one day at a time, I reached out to my Drs but the biggest support was simply admitting to a friend that I was not ok.

Do you have anyone who you can talk to?

I still feel like a shit mother, can't sleep due to the pain and my relationship is strained but taking each day as it comes, accepting the bad days and finding the small positives can be big help. I have accepted that I can't do everything and am learning to cut myself some slack.

I'm not sure if I am allowed to link pages here but check out the mind.org website there is lots of useful information there xx

@doubleshotespresso well I found a couple of people who practised locally that I liked the look of (not sure If was business cards, now I would just look on the BACP website) and interviewed them over the phone, to see if I liked them initially, what their approach was etc.
For me what worked was one who offered open ended psychotherapy for as long as I needed, so there was no pressure or fear of losing support.
The sort of therapy that helped me is based on relationship with the therapist and I think was called "integrative". What I needed was to feel held emotionally while I learned to love myself again. It felt like healing from the inside out.
Disclaimer: I am still seeing her

@Crackbadger I am so glad this is working for you, this kind of life coupled with constant pain can be soul destroying, it really is reassuring to hear how this worked for you. I do know what you mean about emotions and your own sense of self too, these daily challenges do mean your whole self takes quite a battering.
I do hope you keep seeing her, sounds like it's working well for you ;-)

Yes. It's an epiphany and if you come through it you will have grown, immeasurably. Nothing can hurt you when you KNOW you've been to the depths of the worst and survived it. I wish the best for you xx

@doubleshotespresso thank so much.
Sending love to all in pain, whatever kind.