To think "batundus" sounds like an insult?

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My husband makes up pet names for me, the cats and our 9 week old DS. Generally they're nice and amusing.

(Note that I'm not upset about this issue. My husband is excellent with our child and generally a lovely person.)

His latest name for DS is "Batundus". This is nothing like his real name. I can't pinpoint why, but it sounds vaguely derogatory to me.

Wise mumsnetters, AIBU in thinking this pet name sounds like an insult? Does anyone else have strange terms like this floating around?

I mean, I called my son dipshit more than his name for the first year of his life, I also make up random nicknames that stick for a while.

@OwlBeThere to be fair, dipshit is actually a word.

I also do this for husband, kids, pets. The teens find it slightly annoying but it's all done out of love -and I also like playing with language.

Batundus sounds fine to me

Tbf my son was called ratbag for a while. I mean he is one sometimes but still

Is it based on different language?
It sounds more cheeky fun to me for some reason rather than delegatory. I am not sure why though!

Its totally normal to have an assortment of both made up and actual words used as pet names for animals and kids isn't it?

In our house the cats and DS are so infrequently called their actual names.

@SchrodingersImmigrant not based on any language. DH is creative. It's definitely meant lovingly.

At nine weeks, son won't be making decisions on whether batundos is derogatory or not.

as for dipshit at one? maybe

@PegPeople I agree it's normal. Just this particular one sounded like a great insult to me. DH disagreed. We said we'd ask Mumsnet.

(If I'm honest, maybe I wanted to use it as an insult! 😂)

It makes me think of the name Babatunde, which means Father Returns in an African dialect. So definitely not derogatory!

Adult DS is still called lamb chop.
We are a nickname family.

[quote ValidUser]@OwlBeThere to be fair, dipshit is actually a word.[/quote]
@ValidUser that’s true 😂😂

Sounds fine to me.

Excellent. So my next question is, should I join in with calling him Batundus?

Yes.
Yes you should.
And build on it, add a surname or famous name.
Calling them random names is one of the few upsides.

Hahaha this really tickled me for some reason. I don't know that it sounds derogatory. We call our baby The Boogle.

Ds1 was Bugly, as a baby. Thankfully, he grew into his ears and looked less alien like by the time he was a toddler.

Sounds like a Harry Potter spell.x

I don't know if it is an insult. I think it is more of an accolade - like the Great Panjandrum. But don't take my word for it. When my son was three he would answer to Archibald Broccoli and his baby sister was Ethel Cabbage. She is 19 now and we still call her Cabbage.

I'd be fine with it, DS is frequently Baduschca

I mean I won't explain the etymology of Grunt for our 7 month old 😂

DP uses the Welsh phrase Bached for the DC which is his term of endearment but it sounds a lot like Butthead . It's a use of bachgennyn but in his tiny rural Welsh town it somehow got flipped into Bached.

Especially when he used it in the playground of our decidedly English school playground and got some very odd looks. It does sound like he is being rude to DC but they know what it means and like it so I ignore the side eyes from the other parents.

Meh let him use it. I've definitely called my DC worse in my own head. and they definitely deserved it at the time and I should get a medal for not saying it outloud

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DP uses the Welsh phrase Bached for the DC which is his term of endearment but it sounds a lot like Butthead . It's a use of bachgennyn but in his tiny rural Welsh town it somehow got flipped into Bached.

Especially when he used it in the playground of our decidedly English school playground and got some very odd looks. It does sound like he is being rude to DC but they know what it means and like it so I ignore the side eyes from the other parents.

Meh let him use it. I've definitely called my DC worse in my own head. and they definitely deserved it at the time and I should get a medal for not saying it outloud

I’ve never heard bachgennyn..whet area is he from? We would use bechgyn where I’m from.

Nothing wrong at all.Perhaps you are over tired.

@TheQueef I quite like Batundus Magellan.

@KarmaStar can't blame tiredness. I wake up more often than my little Batundus. Clearly I'm just a cranky bastard.