To be annoyed by this?

[Dipsydoom]

So this weekend, dh has taken our baby to meet his family for the first time. We have been extremely careful all through the pandemic as I was in the shielding category and am not having the vaccine due to medical reasons. We agreed before he went that his parents would be allowed to hold her as they are both vaccinated but that anyone else would need to wear a mask and sanitise hands etc and different groups of people were going to come at different points. I said that was fine, no problem. Now I see pictures all over fb of everyone holding our baby no masks and with more than 6 people in the house at the same time. Aibu to feel slightly annoyed by this? I know it's an exciting moment but we've been so careful and I just feel a bit upset that they couldn't stick to what we agreed. Obviously will probably all be fine but....

Why didn't you go too?

If you were so concerned why did you not go to make sure everything was ok ? ( I certainly understand your concerns )

I understand why you’re upset but in reality this is always how family things go. If you are not comfortable that’s fine but don’t send her. Otherwise you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Yes I would be annoyed by that too. It’s disrespectful of your boundaries for him to agree to something and then disregard it.

I expect his family probably pressured him into it tho, and he may have went along with it to keep the peace.

If I were you I’d let him know how you feel and that it upset you, but at the same time it’s not worth falling out with your DH over, it’s not worth an argument.

I don’t understand the different groups at different times thing. That doesn’t protect your baby from covid- it just protects the people who aren’t there when the covid + person/people is/are there. Your baby would still be exposed to the covid + person.

They sound inconsiderate, but I am also wondering why you didn't go. You can't really control this from a distance.
Have you been advised not to have the vaccine?

Is this the first time people have seen the baby? They're just excited.

@Tambora

Why didn't you go too?

Why is this relevant?

OP I would be a bit like you but I think it's one of those things you can't really control. You could make this an issue between you and DH be sue he didn't stick to what you said and bowed to the pressure of family, but realistically it's not worth a fall out.

I didn’t go because I was working

This is normal family stuff and if you didn't want it, you should have gone too or kept your baby with you. But regardless of whether your wishes are understandable/sensible/ OTT, your partner should have respected them. I would be upset by that breach of trust. It's his fault, not the relatives.

The different groups was because if they all came at once would be like 15 people which is against the rule as they weren’t outside, yeah I’m not surprised it happened just a little disappointed. Also a bit irritated that a lot of photos have been posted without asking if it’s ok first

@yokey yeah I understand your point but I couldn’t go and if I’d have said not to go, there would have been uproar so didn’t really have a choice

YANBU OP, if you agreed something specific with your DP he should have stuck to that.