Does anyone else have shitty, arsehole neighbours?

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My neighnours do diy every bloody day and listen to music I can hear every day. There hasn't been a single weekend I havent had peace from their diy in 8 months of me moving in. I asked them to keep the music down during one particular loud night but it exasperated the situation. He's a knob basically overdue his dose of karma.

I am moving soon but today they are really doing my head in. Does anyone else have dickhead neighbours pissing them off today?

How did it exasperate the situation?

Yes.
There must be a million threads on AIBU about shitty neighbours

I asked him to turn his music down as it was loud while I was wfh and he put the speaker on full so very very loud right outside my back door but on his side of the fence for 3.5 hours at night too. He then pissed off inside to watch TV while he left the music on and it was going up to 11pm.

Yes, except not music they did all the DIY shit every non working hour til 10pm and weekends all while we had a newborn then turned out they had created a laundry room so the old cow could set up a business cleaning and doing holiday let laundry. When we politely asked them to move the dryer away from the wall she reacted by putting it on til 2am every morning.

We moved or I would have punched them

That's terrible partypoooooper. Why are some people like this?

I had a neighbour who would deliberately put heavy things in our shared alleyway before bin day. Light a bbq every time I put out washing. Screamed obscene things over the fence at me, knowing I was alone and it was frightening. His wife even lied about having cancer when we tried to take them to court after catching them slashing our car tyres. Vile, awful people. Here's to moving day OP. It was the best day of my life.

My last lot were horrendous with 10 hours a day of loud music, shouting, hot tub screaming and parties. I'm a key worker, working at home during a global pandemic and I would start work at 6am.

This noise was in their backyard and you could hear it out front in the street.

I think it stuck in their craw that they never knew anything about me. Neighbours are not friends.

They were so sensitive to noise themselves though and regularly moaned about people mowing grass.

I do not understand why people are like this. Neither do I get why people want everyone to know what they are doing, where they are going on holiday, where they have been on holiday, how much they earn.

At our previous house dh politely asked the neighbours if the very loud music could be turned down as I was pregnant and sleeping following a nightshift. Big mistake.

The teenage son then started a campaign of harassment and vandalism against us, our cars and property for the next ten years. The police were involved and the harassment would cease for a few weeks then start up again.

When missiles like rocks and a metal bar began to be thrown over the fence narrowly missing us I told dh that, if we didn't move, I was going without him. I was on the verge of a breakdown, paranoid, at odds with the other neighbours who were angry at me for calling the police and very depressed. We moved shortly afterwards.

My ndn definitely aren't as bad as some of these stories but had a massive confrontation with them over new years because of their music. I'd been saying to DH that it was getting to me how they had got so much louder over a period of months and had said to him it felt like they were doing it on purpose and it felt personal? He told me I was being stupid but when I did have enough and confront them it turns out they were doing it to 'get back at me' for a reason which, when explained to them, they realised they had got completely the wrong end of the stick and apologised. My mental health was already shot by this point so their apology meant nothing. They are much quieter now but I'm completely on edge with any noise from them.

My way of dealing with things is to knock and politely say 'hi neighbour, really sorry to bother you but would you mind xyz?'. Their way was to 'get back at us' by playing loud music, let their kids run riot at all hours of the night so we couldn't sleep and do 6 months of unbearable house renovations without any warning, despite knowing I work at home.

If I could start my life again I would go into politics and work to give people more power against nightmare neighbours. There is simply not enough that can be done to deal with them and it is so, so unfair. It ruins peoples lives.

Yes!!

I’ve had a new neighbour move into the flat below me. I also wfh and she had been playing her music a little loud during the day, but was generally quiet at night.

I popped down yesterday to introduce myself to her, had a nice chat, got to know each other a little. Explained I worked from home and how thin the walls were and if she wouldn’t mind just being mindful of the volume she has her music on etc and if ever I’m being too loud, she only has to come and give me a knock and let me know. She was all nice and saying how she was someone who wanted to get on with her neighbours and fully agreed that if there’s any issues we should talk to each other about them. She mentioned her heating wasn’t working properly and she’d been cold so I offered to lend her my fan heater until she got her heating sorted which she was really grateful of. She mentioned her sister would be coming round later as it was Dsis birthday, so I figured they may have a bit of music on etc. I thanked her for letting me know.

Queue about 4pm in the afternoon, her DSis and friends turn up. Music goes on full blast and bass is turned right up. My windows and floor were vibrating from the bass and I couldn’t hear my tv even when I turned it up.

I went to knock the door, but she couldn’t hear me it was so loud. Other neighbour who’d got pally with her even tried to shout her through her letterbox. And tried to text her to ask her to turn it down. Nothing.

This went on until 10pm. I was crying with sheer frustration. Then at 10pm they all buggar off out. Finally I have peace. I go get into bed and try and get off to sleep in case they come back.

1am arrived and so did they. Shouting in the street, shouting in the communal corridor. Laughing and shouting etc inside the flat. Banging doors. Then at 2am they whack the music back on full blast. I lost it.

Went down and banged the crap out of the door until they answered and asked them to turn the music off. The response from the random girl who answered was “ok we’ll turn it down”. I said “No, turn it off. It’s 2am”.
“No we’ll turn it down” and closed the door.

They turned the music down and then off and then continued to shout, laugh, scream, bang doors etc. It was 4am before they finally shut the fuck up.

Today I am absolutely shattered as I had barely any sleep (couldn’t sleep properly after either as was anxious they’d start up again!).

They’ve been quiet all day and then a couple of hours ago some chap turned up and they’re all chatting loudly in the living room. I’m praying these people buggar off soon and she goes to bed so I can actually get some sleep tonight. But I’m not holding my breath after yesterday’s antics. Have a horrible feeling they’re here for the night.

I know one thing. When I see her I’m asking for my damn heater back!

Oh and prior to this neighbour I had 7 years of hell from the previous arsehole that lived there!

Mine are bad but things have improved a lot since last year!

I have Britain's worst neighbours.

Truely awful- Every single agency is involved from police, social services to EHO.

2.5 years of hell.
The whole street has had issues with them in some format.
Many false hopes of ' They are moving' but no, still here.

I'm wondering now if I am a terrible neighbour? I play music during the day in our semi, but in a room that's not attached. Am I a dick? It's low enough to chat over

Our neighbour is a fucking c*nt.

Music would literally be music to my ears from my neighbour instead he hides stolen goods in our yard, we have had several knives thrown into our yard from his, we had an unconscious man outside our front door after our neighbour hit him, he had an argument with his girlfriend and drove his car straight into the front of their house (we are terraced and luckily it didn't damage our house), he has ripped the drainpipe from the wall and used it to break his own windows, he must have upset someone as they all piled out of a car and smashed his car to bits with crow bars before driving off again , I could go on!

@Hellocatshome

Music would literally be music to my ears from my neighbour instead he hides stolen goods in our yard, we have had several knives thrown into our yard from his, we had an unconscious man outside our front door after our neighbour hit him, he had an argument with his girlfriend and drove his car straight into the front of their house (we are terraced and luckily it didn't damage our house), he has ripped the drainpipe from the wall and used it to break his own windows, he must have upset someone as they all piled out of a car and smashed his car to bits with crow bars before driving off again , I could go on!

Please do! Omg!

Two doors down there’s an arse who spends most of his downtime stood in the garden smoking weed. Over the back there is somebody who has regular fights with their housemates/family, use their garden to dismantle scrap, and indulge in competitive swearing competitions. The flats over the road are home to several drug users, who love to rummage through bins and skips looking for stuff to sell.

A truly delightful area, but I have a roof over my head.

I moved in with my 73yr old mum for 6mths to nurse her back from a hip replacement and back surgery. Her neighbours allow their children to yell and scream at the bin men at 6am for them to wave back. The 30 yr old fence had broken panels and the children (boys) used to urine through the panels to her side. The neighbour was responsible for the fence on the deeds.

Neighbour called the police, accusing my disabled mother of kicking through the fence panels!!! On arrival, police asked whether my mother had done it with her walking stick! They were clearly rotten! When I'd moved back to my home, the neighbour called the police again, then accusing my mother of swearing in her garden! By then, she barely went in her own garden and in 40ish years, I've NEVER heard her swear.

nc91222 - I wish you could go into politics and make changes. (I'd vote for you). You are spot on that it ruins people's lives. Some of the stories on here are heartbreaking.

There seem to be draconian laws that ruin careers if people say the wrong thing but yet no power to stop people wrecking homes. For everyone who says "We moved!", there's someone else who moved in.

I had drug dealer neighbours, drunk neighbours who'd sit on the balcony playing music all night and screaming row type neighbours. Mostly for short periods as I was renting and could move on.

The worst were building work neighbours - very "nice" people. Pillars of the community types but did DIY all day and all night, turned their attic into and airbnb with guests arriving and departing constantly and "stole" a foot from our garden.
What can you do?

YES.

To be fair, mine is just at weekends they're quiet in the week which I am thankful for. But at weekends we can't use our sitting room at all in the evenings because they have a stupid sound system attached to the party wall and despite numerous requests to turn it down they just say sorry all nice, 'do us know if it's a problem' or 'won't go on after eleven' then do it again every single weekend night. You're not sorry then are you, we shouldn't have to keep asking, and yes the law says eleven but it would be nice to be able to use our sitting room on a Friday night just to chill out if we like!! It's not about the law it's about not being a total and utter arsehole. I would be mortified if we disturbed people like that, I don't know why people have such a sense of entitlement to do as they please.

We're moving. To a detached house. I fucking hate them!

I feel your pain OP, I moved into my dream house on the South Downs, it was a fantastic find as I couldn't afford much and the scenery was incredible. I was so happy and planned to spend the rest of my days there in my forever home.
Neighbours on the other hand were a shower of bastards and made my life an absolute misery, loud music, 6 kids next door shrieking 24/7, next doors neglected garden pushing my new fence down with the sheer weight of weeds and neglected plants, and so on and so forth.
I've had to move to Somerset and live in a quiet close with all the neighbours being quiet elderly. It isn't my dream home, it has only a courtyard garden instead of the 100 foot garden I had before, I've lost so very much but at last can get more than two hours sleep.
The neighbours contributed to my breakdown and the breakup of my marriage.
Other people are hell on earth.

There seem to be draconian laws that ruin careers if people say the wrong thing but yet no power to stop people wrecking homes. For everyone who says "We moved!", there's someone else who moved in

@blobblob - yes exactly this. And the arsehole neighbours know they can get away with it because really, there is nothing that will be done!

My sister currently lives next door to a woman who is making her and her DCs life hell. DSis says the woman had her children removed by SS a couple of years ago and since then has been an absolute nightmare. Loud music, shouting and banging through the night, smashed windows, dumped furniture out front and back, bags of rubbish and food waste festering by her front door, people coming at all hours (drug dealing?). They have begged council, other neighbours have started petitions, local councillors trying to help - nothing.

Yes moved from a detached house I loved because of shitty neighbours in their hot tub and constant music into another detached house that still has arse holes about as you can't control what other people do in their gardens.

I wish I could live in the middle of no where.

I’ve had some shocking neighbours in my time. This is nowhere near the worst example. Not by a long shot. But one current neighbour is having a midlife crisis and sits in his driveway revving his MLC motorbike for ages each day, at all times of the day and night. Just to make sure everyone hears him on his cool bike.