Birthday

[ihavethehighground]

It's a milestone birthday for me today.
I don't feel appreciated. No card this morning.
DH went to Morrisons and came back with one of those £4 small boxes of Lindt chocolates. Ran upstairs and could hear him writing a card he had just bought.
Card doesn't say wife. Just a generic age card. He said he couldn't find me a plant and would take me to the garden centre next week.
I politely declined, as we don't need any plants for the garden. Waiting for the patio to be re done and clearing out plant pots etc. There is a big florist in the supermarket that sells ready made bouquets.
He's told me he didn't get a cake because he wants gluten free for him and couldn't find one

First job is go and find yourself some cake! Your choice whether you take him with you, but either a trip out with a magazine somewhere you like for lunch/dessert/coffee/cake/whatever or find someone else who might like to head out with you.

What plans are likely for dinner? I'd draw a line in the sand now about the takeaway/meal out/whatever you want so your DH is under no illusions that this is not ok.

Is he usually better than this? Are there mitigating circumstances?

Either way, this is shitty and I'm sorry. Happy birthday!

Happy birthday!

Do you have any friends you could call on for a day out?

@ihavethehighground

It's a milestone birthday for me today. I don't feel appreciated. No card this morning. DH went to Morrisons and came back with one of those £4 small boxes of Lindt chocolates. Ran upstairs and could hear him writing a card he had just bought. Card doesn't say wife. Just a generic age card. He said he couldn't find me a plant and would take me to the garden centre next week. I politely declined, as we don't need any plants for the garden. Waiting for the patio to be re done and clearing out plant pots etc. There is a big florist in the supermarket that sells ready made bouquets. He's told me he didn't get a cake because he wants gluten free for him and couldn't find one

I think you are being a bit unreasonable. He got you something, just something that isn't good enough for you in your opinion. Be glad you have your people with you, it's about presence not presents. I've got a big milestone birthday coming up in a couple of weeks and it looks like, due to covid and all the restrictions, I'll be spending it on my own in a foreign country while my DH is back home with his mother who is seriously ill. Appreciate what you've got instead of getting hung up on what you haven't 🤷‍♀️

@3Britnee she's more than entitled to feel disappointed.

Happy birthday OP. Could you take yourself out? Go get your nails done, pick up a nice coffee and slice of cake somewhere? It's shit when people don't live up to our expectations.

presence not presents.

It's the thought that counts. And the thought here is that last minute dash to the supermarket would be acceptable. OP is entitled to feel upset, other people being worse off doesn't prevent her from doing so. Him not getting a cake because its not suitable for him to eat suggests he puts his needs before OPs and I'd hazard a guess this isn't the first time.
Happy birthday @ihavethehighground I hope you can enjoy the rest of your day.

3britnee Did you have a bowl of sanctimony for breakfast? She didn't even get a damn birthday cake because her arsehole partner wanted gluten free! He's lazy as fuck

Is there any chance of a surprise later?

If not I'd go and buy yourself a cake (with gluten)

What a cunt!

What a dickhead.

It is my DH birthday today and he has had a slap up breakfast (with 3 glasses of cava) and is currently reclining in the Sun before enjoying a nice afternoon massage.

First things first.
Get out of the house right now and go find a nice shop and get yourself a lovely cake. Then (i personally) would go find a nice spot to get my nails done/get a massage. Then have a nice park walk and go for a slap up meal and cocktail.

Do NOT get him anything other than a 50p birthday card, a 4 pound box of chocs and a promise of a shit gift he doesn't want for his birthday.