- Lip filler - don't for now. I know so many peers who had it done in their early 20s and regret it. As a PP said - maybe get some make up lessons and learn how to apply make up rather than going drastic from the start.
- Waxing - I get Hollywood waxing done - it's usually every 6 weeks or so. Find a place that uses Lycon wax (and knows how to use it properly) - it's usually a bit more expensive but significantly less painful. Take paracetamol and ibuprofen an hour before. It will be more painful around your period. I never tip. I would suggest having a look at several salons and maybe try and talk to them about your past assualt and just ensure you feel comfortable going there. I've been to some weird places when I haven't been able to go to my usual and always regret it - when you find a great waxing place, it's totally worth it.
- Tan - I tan at home (I get my husband to do my back / have used friends in the past). I'm casper pale and so many tans turn me orange! The best I've found are Dove gradual (get the dark one) - the darker based ones have more green base, so less likely to go orange. I find one layer, will still show as a tan. It goes on clear so slightly harder to see where it streaks. For proper fake tan, always use a mitt and I really recommend St Moriz (it's about £6) mousse - again I always use the dark (not Ultra Dark). It comes out with a guide colour so you can see where you've been which is really helpful.
I do find the colour transfers (when guide colour is on) to my sheets and clothes, wear dark loose clothes whilst it develops and I bought a tanning/sleeping bag thing to sleep in when I'm tanning.
I've heard really good things about Isle of Paradise drops that you can add to moistouriser etc but again, for me I need the guide colour to see where I've been. I would avoid St Tropez at all costs - always makes me so orange.
Exfoliate in advance - I usually do a couple of sessions a few days in advance and moistourise (oil free). On the day, I will only add a small amount of moistouriser to my knees, elbows and feet.
- Eyelashes - just go for hybrid or less. Russian lashes are way too much for everyday, especially if you're not used to them. Mine have lasted several weeks. You don't need mascara with them (except for bottom lashes). I often get my lashes tinted before having extensions so that the bottom ones have some colour. You can get bottom lash extensions but it's really not worth it. I would suggest starting off with quite simple/everyday lashes - you can always have more added if you want.
The first ones I ever had done, I looked like a clown. Find somewhere reputable, if you're in a city, use something like Treatwell to look for reviews. They should always give you a patch test before applying lashes - the good places will do a patch test on your actual eyeline (many do it on your neck but your neck isn't anywhere near as sensitive as the eyes). Don't use any oil based cleanser and they will last a really good time. Most places will give you a clean mascara wand to brush them - I also use a microfibre towel to pat them dry when I get out of the shower.
If you're not ready for extensions, have a look at LVL (with a tint) - my friend used to always have extensions but now swears by LVL.
Your natural lashes won't fall out (unless you pull out the extensions) - they might just look more sparse after you've had extensions.
Eyebrows - if you don't already, I really recommend having them tinted - mine are blonde and just disappear if I don't fill them in. Having them tinted (for me) makes such a difference.
Hope that helps! I was totally useless for years when it came to this stuff - my mum had no interest in beauty and I have older brothers.