To not get dressed up for a zoom wedding invitation?

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One of my husbands relatives lives in Australia and is getting married tomorrow. Obviously we can't go due to current Covid restrictions. The ceremony will be at 7am in the UK. Obviously we plan to be out of our pyjamas and dressed (though this might be a stretch with 2 young children), I might even put on some make up for the occasion. But am I correct in thinking that it's unnecessary to be dressed up formally as a virtual guest? Or should we dress as we would if we were going to be physically present at the wedding?

Thanks!

Yanbu!

Personally, I'd get dressed up and other in fancy brunch food and champagne, because good knows there have been free enough excuses over the last year. But I don't think you have to. Maybe wear a pretty top to show willing.

*Order in fancy brunch food

I would like to think I’d put a ‘naice’ top on and make sure I looked nice then I’d prep some scrambled egg and smoked salmon, open some fizz for a champagne breakfast and toast the happy couple.

But 7am is a bit early So as long as I’d brushed my hair and weren’t in a hoody or dressing gown then that would be good too

Oh yes, dress up. Not new dress shopping but put something nice on. It will make it feel more of an occasion for you and if they notice they'll appreciate the effort.

I would like to think I’d put a ‘naice’ top on and make sure I looked nice then I’d prep some scrambled egg and smoked salmon, open some fizz for a champagne breakfast and toast the happy couple.

I think I would, too. There's been little enough to cheer about, so would enjoy doing something out of the ordinary.

Then, afterwards, I could go back to bed. 😁

What possible difference can it make to the happy couple if you're eating smoked salmon? And who wants to see people munching toast on a screen?
At 7am they'd be lucky if I drifted on to say hi. Are you expected to sit through the whole thing?
And is this supposed to be for you, so you feel included? Or for them, so they feel they've had a good turn-out?

I would do my hair and face.
Just incase the couple took stills of the Zoom attendants and turned into a Thankyou card or something.

But that probably says more about me than you 😀

I'd definitely put on a nice top and get in some nice brunch bits along with fizz to toast them with. I would not sit there in my pjs like we might as well be watching the 5th episode of Paw Patrol. Why wouldn't you try to make them feel like you care?

I would def do quick hair and makeup, nice top not formal though.

When my brother got married abroad I wore a dressing gown, but that is a v good point about someone taking a screen shot. I think looking presentable is a good idea. But would I bollocks go and get special food, no worse sound than someone eating over zoom!!!

I would make an effort. Nice hair and make up. Pretty top. PJs and slippers underneath.

Yes I'd do hair make up and nice top. It must be shit to have had cancelled weddings and have to invite people on zoom who youd much rather have seen in person. If I was them I think I'd be touched if people made an effort to make it seem 'weddingy'

@GyozaPoser

I'd definitely put on a nice top and get in some nice brunch bits along with fizz to toast them with. I would not sit there in my pjs like we might as well be watching the 5th episode of Paw Patrol. Why wouldn't you try to make them feel like you care?

Thanks for all the advice so far!

Haha!! We probably will be on about our 5th paw patrol by 7am 😂. Kids might kick off about changing the channel come to think of it!

Id put on something nice, why not?

Something nice on the top half and pjs on the bottom - like for every job interview.

Stick a nice hat on. It's very British to wear hats to a wedding (and the Aussies will love it). And it solves the problem of hair being done! 🎩 👒

Business on the top and slouchy on the bottom. Job done. Have a lovely virtual wedding celebration. If there is one good thing to come from this pandemic it is the huge increase in the use of video technology for keeping in touch and not missing important events.

Defo get dressed up! x

Will they be able to see you? Or is it like a streamed funeral?

Something that shows a bit of effort bit isn't as formal as if you were there?

I don't need much of a reason to get dressed up, just because there have been so few excuses to do so in the last year but 7am is very early so it's understandable you're not sure. Agree with PP, maybe a nice top and a glass of champers to toast the happy couple would be nice.

Be careful there's no bottom half pjs on show though if you're going for the 'top only' strategy! As pps have pointed out, they might take a still so I would try and look a bit nice if I was me, plus any excuse right now to wear something other than leggings is nice I think.

As someone else said it depends how you are seeing it. My DD got married last month with just 2 guests and they Facebook streamed it but the bride and groom couldn’t see anyone because of the way it was set up.
They wouldn’t have known if people were dressed up, in pjs or naked!

I think I'd do whatever I could to try to help any poor couple getting married over the last 15months celebrate and make it special.

It doesn't take much to brush your hair and put a nice top on - no-one's asking you to shave your legs or try and remember how to walk in high heels.
I rather like the idea of getting a hat out - so easy to make yourself look 'dressed up' when all anyone will see is head and shoulders