To wonder if lots of people feel this way?

[PracticallyDrab]

Do you ever just feel that you're doing nothing worthwhile with your life?

Just a very normal, boring job, come home care for DC...

Feeling a bit like if anyone asked me what was the most worthwhile thing I'd done or the most exciting thing so on, I'd have nothing to say.

Yep, I feel that.

👍🏻 yep

Sorry to hear you're feeling similar! It's rubbish isn't it.

I've been considering taking a night course at a local college but I just don't know how any further study after that would work around DC/work etc...

Yep, that's me and getting fatter and fatter while I do it. Life's shit and then you die is my general conclusion!

Yes daily. Some days it truly feels like my brain along with my independence is just completely diminished. I have no alternative choices but it is really hard to maintain any levels of positivity some days, today is another of those :-(

it's a bit cliched but does it help to tell yourself that caring for your children is worth while?

you could find a cause you're interested in and do some armchair activism

how fit are you? try and work up to a target (I'm quite proud of being able to do ten press-ups, tbh)

If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got. Work out some goals and then try to do at least one thing a day to work towards them. Only you can make the changes.

I think Covid and the year we’ve all had has compounded these feelings. In normal times W e all would have booked holidays, etc which serves as a distraction.
Daily life is a grind without the nice fluff we usually tart it up with.

Yes especially this year, it's time for a change.

@EmeraldShamrock

Yes especially this year, it's time for a change.

I think we’ve all had too much time to ruminate and think. I know I have.

Ha, yes, I had to fill out a profile at work yesterday and one of the questions was 'what are you proudest of' and I had nothing!

But then I saw everyone else's and whilst some of their stuff was pretty impressive (ran a marathon, built a business etc) very few were things I was envious of.

I do have some annoyingly talented friends and colleagues (one just had the rights to dramatise her book snapped up by the BBC, another has won multiple technical oscars!) but there are very few things I think 'wish that was me' so I guess I'm mostly happy with my lot.

Yes you're probably right that it's down to the past year and just having too much time in our own thoughts!

For me personally it's not about holidays or things like that. I just feel like I'm not doing anything worthwhile so I guess you could say the main focus would be my job. A friend of mine just qualified as a nurse and I was thinking how lovely to know that you're actually helping people with your day, that what you do actually matters.

My job isn't a bad job but neither is it something that feels important or something that I'm proud to do (it's law but a spectacularly boring sector of law).

There are so many things I'd love to do but it all just seems so impossible when you actually start looking into the logistics with work and family, small DC etc...

Sigh!

@Gottagetoutofthisplace

I think Covid and the year we’ve all had has compounded these feelings. In normal times W e all would have booked holidays, etc which serves as a distraction. Daily life is a grind without the nice fluff we usually tart it up with.

I agree with that.

I filled daytimes when becoming a SAHM to school age children by helping out at their school, but that's still off the agenda at present; probably until Sept as if it is viable from June, it's hardly worth organising for the last few weeks.

I'd often also busy myself with decorating, but until DH is reluably at the office full time, it's too disruptive to start.

Normally races focus my running but it's only quieter trail races at present and I'm not feeling the love after a few goes. I need a bit of buzz from some road races on the horizon.

I'm normally pretty good at feeling purposeful in some way, but there's too little on offer for too long at present and no instant fix.

Idiot alert. Reported.

I take comfort from knowing I am one of billions in the world, and with no particular expertise or exceptional qualities, will have no lasting impact or legacy in 100+ years to come. It takes the pressure off. In a few hundred years I suspect I will have fallen off the family tree record and no stories or account will remain of my being.

Meanwhile, my ‘worthwhile’ I seek in the smaller joys and pleasures to be had. A conversation and game of cards with my Mum earlier today. Fresh crusty loaf of bread for sandwiches for lunch. Tickle time and kisses with my 2 beautiful children. Sunshine on my face this morning. Gratitude for the home I have and the employment I recently started with a really nice team and supportive manager. A really long phone call last week with an old friend who needed some support. Really simple pleasures, and a determination to be kind to myself and better myself when time and opportunity allows (there is little of that with 2 very young children).

Maybe you need a little project or challenge to stretch yourself? I wonder if that might help with your dissatisfaction?