Feeling a little left out.

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Hi everyone, new poster here. Just asking if I’m being unreasonable here.
The situation is that my daughter in law has a you tube channel about life with my three year old granddaughter. I love watching it as it’s been a great way to see the little one developing over the past year but I get a little jealous how she always mentions what her own mum buys for our granddaughter, how much she’s looking forward to seeing her and that the little one is desperate to see her granny again but I’m never mentioned at all. I have bought lovely gifts and my son arranges for us to see them all fairly regularly which is great but it would just be nice to hear that I have some place in my granddaughter’s life.
I am aware that it probably sounds petty but I still find it hurtful.
I get in really well with my DIL’s mum and dad, they are good friends of ours and I think I get on well with my DIL although I don’t think she really bothers about if she sees us or not to be honest but that’s fine as long as we are thoughtful and pleasant when we are together.

OP I'd be really hurt as well. Whst you do about that is another story.

I think I'd try to focus on having a good relationship w your DIL and GD in real life. Perhaps your husband could mention something to your son on the down low in passing?

If it were me though, I'd probably say nothing. Good luck x

I can see how that would feel hurtful. But in your DILs shoes she probably just sees the relationship between her mum and her daughter as an extension of her own relationship with them, so it naturally gets mentioned more and is at the forefront of her mind. I'm sure there is no malice in it. As long as you have a lovely relationship with your grandchildren, which is sounds like you do, then that is the main thing.

She doesn't sound very thoughtful or engaged with feelings of others, or even manners to be honest, I'd feel upset too OP 😥

Thanks CareBear50
Yes I won’t say anything as I don’t want any bad feeling it’s just hurtful.
Thanks for your reply.

Thanks everyone. I just needed to get it off my chest.

Sounds like she is monetising the child on YouTube. The child has no say in this as she is 3.

I do think it should be illegal.

I just wanted to say that I can imagine feeling a bit left out in that scenario too and it's insensitive of your DIL but sounds completely unintentional.

I would focus on your granddaughter and when she's a bit bigger she'll be able to reciprocate the affection you clearly have for her.