Am I being too closed minded? We are probably looking to move at some point in the next few years.
DH would prefer to move to a different area of the same town. He says he wants to be closer to his friends, but his friends are dotted around all over the place. We currently live close to one of his friends - we could move closer to a different one but there's no location that is close to all his friends. He also thinks that our area is more expensive than other areas, which yes it is, but in my opinion it's more expensive because it has a lot going for it and is a lovely place to live. Because it is very sought after it is likely to take quite a wait to find somewhere suitable to move to and it would be quicker and easier if we considered other areas. But I don't think we're in any particular hurry - we have 2 children and currently live in a fairly small 3-bed ground floor flat with a shared garden and 1 bathroom. The kids are 5 and 3. It would be nice in the future to have a bit more living space, a spare bedroom, an extra bathroom, our own garden, but it's not like these are things that we NEED and we definitely don't need them urgently.
What I love about our area is:
- it's very close to our workplaces (a 10 minute cycle) and other things that mean we rarely have to drive, which is a lifestyle that I really enjoy
- it's a suburb but also quite close to the town centre
- the primary school is very good and right next to the sports club, swimming pool, music school etc, which means very little ferrying of children
- it's an area with a lot of natural beauty, right by the sea, and I have easy access to lovely paths for walking and cycling which are my favourite pastimes
- we've lived here for 5 years and I like the community and the connections we have
- in my opinion, it's the perfect balance between suburb and town
Things that aren't so good:
- Yes, it is relatively expensive and we could get more for our money elsewhere
- We'll have to be quite patient if we want to move within this area
- It's on the far side of town, next to the sea, which means it takes a bit longer to get anywhere if you need to go in the other direction, which we do to get to most family and friends
I don't want to be a little bit closer to places we go occasionally for the pay off of introducing a lot more hassle into our daily lives. We used to live on the other side of the town centre and the traffic can be dreadful that way. Because we're one of the only bits on this side and then it's the sea, most people are going in the other direction to us at peak hours now. He's talking about a suburb way on the other side where his sister lives that would mean a driving commute again and we'd probably need a second car to deal with the children pick ups and different working times, even though our workplaces are very close. Yes, it would be nice to be a little bit closer to his sister. But I don't want to have to sit in traffic jams again, it feels like a huge step back in terms of quality of daily life. I was so happy when we moved here and I feel like we are so lucky. I know people value different things in life, though, and I am trying to see his side. What is the best way to approach this?