To keep this baby?

[charliebear78]

I know this probably does not belong here but I just need some one to talk to as it where and some advice.
I am 43 and just found out I am pregnant-even writing that doesn't seem real!
It was an accident and myself and my partner of 10yrs where on the same page that we were finished having children.
We already have two.
Just last year we finished extending our house but ironically still do not really have the space for another child.
All our savings have gone into the house and we now only have our joint wages to live on...no savings at all.
I am self employed and do a physical job which I cant do from home so would have to stop working at some point and it is doubtful I could return when I was ready..I would have to start my business up again(if at all)
Both of us think not having the child is the sensible thing for us...however there is always that doubt and I really do not want to regret whatever decision I make.
Please..as anyone got any advice or personal stories that may help.

I think the main thing is there is no right answer to this, just the right-est answer for you, your DP and your two kids.

If you are uncertain, I think it's worth you both talking through what the likely impact of continuing the pregnancy would be on life for all of you - potential negatives like time for the two kids, time together, money and stability, energy levels, plans for empty nest life - and the potential upside of a new member of the family. Give it a bit of time to talk and mull and hopefully it'll be pretty clear, but ultimately the needs of the existing members of the family are more important that that of a potential new member.