To be miffed DH gave me a blank birthday card?

[moita]

Relationship had been rocky for a while. My birthday today and DH gave me a birthday card: sealed in an envelope with nothing written in it.

I was a bit confused and sad. DS (4) was also upset as he is able to write his name and even he said 'but there's no writing?!'.

AIBU or is that a bit weird?

That is weird and shows a lack of thought.

Probably not deliberate.

I just write "happy birthday, love from T" rather than anything more of an essay.

Easy to imagine sealing the envelope by mistake

What did he say when you asked him?

You sure it wasn't just a brain fart? What did he say when you opened it?

My thought was it was probably an accident

That’s very odd

Yeh, he’s trying to show you how little he cares about you

I'd be miffed. At worst, I'd think he couldn't be bothered. At best, that he's a strong believer in recycling.

I can see how you would interpret that as a deliberate snub or display of uncaring, but it could be an oversight/mistake/brain fart. If you want to know what happened here, the only thing to do is ask him.

I got a birthday card through the post from one of my best friends with nothing written inside. We both laughed our heads off and it's a standing joke now.

I'm sure it was a brain fart.

How bizarre! I would have thought it was a mistake?!

Does he tend to be passive aggressive or forgetful?

He couldn’t bring himself to say something nice so left it blank. I’d be pretty hurt and insulted if it were me.

"prrobably not deliberate"??!

What? How can someone accidently not write in their wife's card

I was a bit confused and sad.

What did you say to him? How did he respond?

DS (4) was also upset as he is able to write his name and even he said 'but there's no writing?!'.

I would avoid bringing your 4 year old into this. Why was he upset? Why didn't you just say 'silly daddy must have forgotten? Why did you show him the card? (I assume you showed him rather than he heard you discuss with DH as you said he noticed no writing) this isn't something a 4 year old should be party to, it's between the adults. It odd for a 4 year old child to be upset in someone else's behalf over something that they wouldn't normally even register

Did you ask him? I mean, he gave it to you, right? Rather than speculating on here, just talk to the bloke.

Is there a back story here?

That's the kind of stupid thing I'd do unthinkingly. Did he do it on purpose or was it just a case of absentmindedness?

I'm guessing there's a backstory?

Did you ask him? Do you know it wasn’t just a silly mistake?

One year dh got me one of those anniversary cards that has a few pages in it.... if you actually read it to the end it turned out to be a birthday card